Archive for May, 2007

The Gift

Why would I give you the Moon?
Because you are the Moon to me,
Much brighter than its night glow.
It is your face that I see
When all the stars are in place.
It is the glow of your love
That illuminates my deepening dusk.
If I had a thousand moons,
I would give them all as a ransom
To acquire your touch, your arms.
But, tonight, the Moon is yours
Lassoed and brought down from the sky.
Embellished with a ribbon of moonbeams
To be presented to you as a cherished gift.
Be mine forever. Shine your light
Upon my life for endless nights.
That’s why I have given you the Moon.
It cannot compare to the gift of you.

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I saw this when I was visiting one of my buddies’ blogs. This is what he has there and I love to share it with you.

Why Worry?

There are only two things in life to worry about:

Whether you are well or whether you are sick.

If you are well, then there is nothing to worry about.

But if you are sick,

There are only two things to worry about:

Whether you are going to get well

Or whether you are going to die.

If you get well,

Then there is nothing to worry about.

But if you die,

There are only two things to worry about:

Whether you are going to heaven

Or whether you are going to hell.

If you go to heaven,

Then you have nothing to worry about.

But if you go to hell,

You’ll be so busy shaking hands with all your friends

That you won’t have time to worry!

So, Why Worry?

Be Happy!

I would like to share this with you. It was something I received through my email from IACT (International Of Counselors And Therapists Association)

Hypnotherapy for Children with Functional Abdominal
Pain or Irritable Bowel Syndrome

As hypnotherapy has demonstrated effectiveness in
adults with IBS, researchers sought to compare its
effects in children to standard medical therapy
commonly used for the condition as an alternative to
drug therapy.

The study involved 53 patients between eight and 18
years old with FAP or IBS, who were administered six
half-hour hypnotherapy sessions over a three-month
period. Endpoints were pain intensity, pain frequency
and other symptoms, such as nausea, headache and
appetite, which were recorded at baseline, one, two,
and three months after randomization and six and 12
months after therapy. Researchers defined “cure” as
those who experienced greater than 80 percent
improvement in pain.

The study revealed that hypnotherapy was superior to
conventional therapy for children with longstanding
functional abdominal pain (FAP) or IBS, curing 59
percent of the patients, versus just 12 percent of
patients who received conventional therapy. After one
year, the figures were 85 percent and 25 percent,
respectively. Patients who received hypnotherapy also
experienced less pain after treatment compared to the
group that received conventional therapy.

“Our team was pleased to learn that the demonstrated
benefits of hypnotherapy on IBS complications appear
to be translatable to children,” said Arine M.
Vlieger, M.D., Ph.D., of St. Antonius Hospital in
Nieuwegein, Netherlands, and lead author of the study.
“Hopefully, these findings will be confirmed with
additional research so that more children can
experience relief from the symptoms of IBS without
adherence to a medication regimen.”

Note: This story has been adapted from a news release
issued by American Gastroenterological Association.

Seth-Deborah Roth RN,CRNA,NBCCH, CI, featured on the Discovery Channel’s “Myth Busters”

“Combining Medical Knowledge with Hypnosis”TM

Member National Board of Certified Clinical Hypnotherapists, Faculty Member and Certified Instructor of the National Guild of Hypnosis, Certified Medical Hypnotherapist, Winner of 2005 Achievement Award in Hypnosis in the field of Health by the IHF & Registered Nurse Anesthetist, NLP Master Results Coach trained by Christopher Howard.

Think of this.

Our Earth can satisfy our needs
It can never satisfy our greed
So just use what we need
It is not as if we can go shopping somewhere else.



Today I’m going to share my thoughts on “Being”, “Doing” and “Having”.

Spirit –> Action –> Effect
Be –> Do –> Have

Have you ever wondering why we’re called Human BEINGS? We’re unlike animals and plants. Before an earthquake, animals would run to search for safety. We won’t fell the quake until it hits us. We’re often unconscious in reacting to changes in our environment. Most of the time we’re make environment suit us. We’re conscious of our consciousness!! Thus, we behave this way.

Look at the word “BEHAVE”. It’s really 2 words – BE and HAVE. In order for us to HAVE, we must BE. The gap between BE and HAVE is “DO”. Therefore, we must BE, in order that we can DO, so to HAVE.

Being is a very powerful state. When we’re being in the “BEING”, we conquer challenges, transform and transcend.

Most of us are busy with “DOING” and “HAVING”. We’re always doing to have this and that. We don’t have the time to lose. We work and work and work. Doing doing doing. The results is that we work to live and never realize that there is another potential – We live to work. We’re conditioned into working.

We’re obsessed by the constantly fascinating fashions of “must-have”. Status symbol including cars, credit cards, trendy clothes, fashion accessories, pets, property, exotic cars, and holidays are pursuit in the chase to having. We consume excessively. We go after materialism and are consciously having it every single living moment.

My belief is to know what I can be (BEING), have the passion to go for it (DOING) and ultimately arrive at my goal of HAVING. Only then I can happy have what I want.

An example. To be a healthy person, I’ll need to eat well and not excessively and to exercise. In so being and doing, I begin to have a body that I’ll be happy with.

In other words, a state of mind is the jump-start to having the love to do the things to reach the ultimately goal of having.

One’s worth is in BEING, not in DOING nor in HAVING. By just being in BEING, you can simply attract HAVING. If one can come to term with just being in BEING, DOING and HAVING come naturally or better still, DOING and HAVING are not longer important at all.

For further reading on this topic, click BEING DOING HAVING now.

FEARS

How does my head work? – I don’t know,
Why the fears? – ones I can’t show
Things I’m scared of but nobody sees,
Perhaps they can, still can’t help me.

Afraid of nothing, that’s how I live,
Except at times I get what I give.
It’s certainly not deserved just yet,
Why the constant fear? – it seems so set.

Nothing changes, but does all the time,
My life full of retribution and crime.
Love they say will conquer all,
Can it be the solution? – it’s not my call.

Living on hope is so unstable,
Fairy tale life, yet another fable.
Without my music to guide me through,
I’d be with Angels standing in a queue.

What is an ordinary day?
Please let me know, I intend to stay.
Not to be burdened with difficult tasks.
Nobody gets anywhere if nobody asks.

Somebody tell me, whisper into my ear,
Then I can stop ciggies and drinking beer.
I know the answer is out there somewhere,
To stop the fears I need someone who cares.

By Allison M

For more of her lovely poems that the above poet shares, click here NOW.

Eating healthily and consciously are both essential habits that are good to inculcate. “We are what we eat” as the saying goes. How true. There are so many recommendations and programs out there in this world. Many have tried some and swear by them. Too many have also not found the right one. What exactly work? Food consumption is not everything. It is a great part of it. Other things are important too. Health is not wellness. Wellness comes with right food we eat, not missing exercises, being able to take pauses in our daily lives, treating others well and with respect and so on and so on. Remember. Developing the Mind, Body and Spirit…

Cherry shares an important aspect of her life in her blog. Great stuff!!


Cherry is a diet follower and currently living a low carb life. It is her goal to help others by sharing her knowledge of diet meals and tips. Good figure, good health, good life ! She does have plenty of good recommendation and experience to share. Visit her blog NOW. Click here.

I can’t resist this. I wished to share my thought about Melinda Dolittle.

Just a mere 2 hours ago, Melinda has not been successfully voted into the final round. Just look at her – how well she had reacted to the decision that Americans made. She took it so sweetly. She has all along took comments, criticisms, comments and all that came along so well. Melinda is such a balanced person. Great attitude and being able to accept what may come along. She knows that this is not the end. Just another step into a great beginning for her.

I truly admire her. To me, she is already a champion – without the need to win the America Idol.

Congratulations to her parents, grandparents and everyone she is connected with. She was brought up so well. The wonderful thing about Melinda is that she is so so sweet natured. She is very humble over the heaps of praises generous showered on her.

Finally, congratulations to you, Melinda!! You’re going to be very famous. And yet humble with your future great achievements.

Melinda is an exemplary well-balanced body, mind and spirit…Melinda will remain sweet and true to herself.

Walk By Me

“Don’t walk in front of me, I may not follow.

Don’t walk behind me, I may not lead.

Walk beside me and be my friend.”

Albert Camus

Today is mother’s day. The story below would be an appropriate one. Let it not be just today that we remember our mother. Let it be everyday. To all the Mothers…Happy Mother’s Day!!

They say that man is mighty;
He governs the land and sea,
He wields a mighty scepter
O’er lesser powers that be.
But a mightier power and stronger
Man from his throne has hurled,
For the hand that rocks the cradle
Is the hand that rules the world.”


~~ William Ross Wallace.

A MOTHERS LOVE

A little boy came up to his mother in the kitchen one evening while she was fixing supper, and handed her a piece of paper that he had been writing on. After his Mom dried her hands on an apron, she read it, and this is what it said:

For cutting the grass: $5.00
For cleaning up my room this week: $1.00
For going to the store for you: $.50
Baby-sitting my kid brother while you went shopping: $.25
Taking out the garbage: $1.00
For getting a good report card: $5.00
For cleaning up and raking the yard: $2.00
Total owed: $14.75

Well, his mother looked at him standing there, and the boy could see the memories flashing through her mind. She picked up the pen, turned over the paper he’d written on, and this is what she wrote:

For the nine months I carried you while you were growing inside me:
No Charge

For all the nights that I’ve sat up with you, doctored and prayed for you:
No Charge

For all the trying times, and all the tears that you’ve caused through the years:
No Charge

For all the nights that were filled with dread, and for the worries I knew were ahead:
No Charge

For the toys, food, clothes, and even wiping your nose:
No Charge

Son, when you add it up, the cost of my love is:
No Charge.

When the boy finished reading what his mother had written, there were big tears in his eyes, and he looked straight at his mother and said, “Mom, I sure do love you.” And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote: “PAID IN FULL”.

Lessons:

* You will never know how much of your parents’ worth till you become a parent

* Be a giver not an asker, especially with your parents. There’s a lot to give, besides money.

Advice:

If your mom is alive and close to you, give her a big kiss and ask her for forgiveness. If she is far away, call her. If she had passed away, pray for her always.

Related Quote

“God bless my mother, all that I am or ever hope to be I owe to her.” Abraham Lincoln

Stories

I read with interest on a writing that a lady wrote in her blog. Do visit her blog. She has very nice stuff there to share. Below is one article she wrote about stories.

Whoever Tells the Best Story Wins!

“Great communicators know that the best way to inspire, motivate, and persuade others is to infuse a human element into discussions through the simple telling of stories, according to Annette Simmons.http://www.blogger.com/img/gl.link.gif

Stories help people feel acknowledged, connected, and less alone. Your stories help them feel more alive. To realize the power of stories is both an incredible opportunity and an awesome responsibility. Filled with enlightening anecdotes and practical guidance, Whoever Tells the Best Story Wins helps you to understand and use that power. You will be able to craft your own personal experiences into stories that will build consensus, win others over to your point of view, and enable better group decision making.”

Telling the best stories may be why Author Caroline Smailes succeeded in getting published so quickly.

Author Annette Simmons lists some of the best ways to tell your stories:

1. Who-I-Am Stories
2. Teaching Stories
3. Vision Stories
4. Values-in-Action Stories
5. I-Know-What-You-Are-Thinking Stories

Annette said that people are lost in an ocean of choices:

In this ocean of choice, a meaningful story can feel like a life preserver that tethers us to something safe and important—at the very least, to a trace of humanity that proves there is a “you” communicating with them, whether the “you” is yourself or an organization you represent.

The meaning is clear: get personal. Tell your story as if you were speaking to a new acquaintance or friend you haven’t seen in a long time.

Annette’s Whoever Tells the Best Story Wins: How to Use Your Own Stories to Communicate with Power and Impact

Author Caroline’s success story posted in the story below.
Caroline’s own story of the trail to publishing.

I read with interest on a writing that someone wrote in a blog. Do visit her blog. She has very nice stuff there.

Whoever Tells the Best Story Wins!

“Great communicators know that the best way to inspire, motivate, and persuade others is to infuse a human element into discussions through the simple telling of stories, according to Annette Simmons.

Stories help people feel acknowledged, connected, and less alone. Your stories help them feel more alive. To realize the power of stories is both an incredible opportunity and an awesome responsibility. Filled with enlightening anecdotes and practical guidance, Whoever Tells the Best Story Wins helps you to understand and use that power. You will be able to craft your own personal experiences into stories that will build consensus, win others over to your point of view, and enable better group decision making.”

Telling the best stories may be why Author Caroline Smailes succeeded in getting published so quickly.

Author Annette Simmons lists some of the best ways to tell your stories:

  1. Who-I-Am Stories
  2. Teaching Stories
  3. Vision Stories
  4. Values-in-Action Stories
  5. I-Know-What-You-Are-Thinking Stories

Annette said that people are lost in an ocean of choices:

In this ocean of choice, a meaningful story can feel like a life preserver that tethers us to something safe and important—at the very least, to a trace of humanity that proves there is a “you” communicating with them, whether the “you” is yourself or an organization you represent.

The meaning is clear: get personal. Tell your story as if you were speaking to a new acquaintance or friend you haven’t seen in a long time.

Annette’s Whoever Tells the Best Story Wins: How to Use Your Own Stories to Communicate with Power and Impact

Author Caroline’s success story posted in the story below.
Caroline’s own story of the trail to publishing.

Telling Stories

Metaphors

I remember the time when I did something that I thought was never possible for me. I always had the feeling of a desire to do it, and not having the a strong enough will to do it. Anyway, this is my story of this how I got over it!! Thinking of my exhilarating experience still get my adrenaline pumped up and excited.

I was driving along this scenic stretch of road out of Queenstown, New Zealand. I was heading towards the outskirt, just driving and taking all the warm air and the picturesque scenery in one afternoon in December 12, 1996. A friend, Nadia, was with me. The road was winding and at every turn there was another corner to negotiate. To my left was a gorge. A meandering river flowing right along it. The river water was fast flowing and I could hear the sound of the water flowing speedily along. What a wonderful feeling and a sight to behold, I told Nadiah and silently to myself. It is so peaceful although the warm air of the winter was brushing against our faces . Life was indeed fabulous and to be alive was such a good thing, I thought to myself.

20 minutes of the journey into the unknown, we heard a faint sound of screams and cheers coming through out half-wound down windows of our car. That was so strange. Out of nowhere the sound penetrated the silence and the peace around us. Being my usual inquisitive self, I suggested to Nadiah that we checked out the source of the intriguing noise. We followed the direction of where the sound was streaming from. After a short drive off-track we saw a parking lot full of cars and coaches. As we approached, the screams and laughters were so loud. We could feel the hive of activities that was taking place there.

We quickly got out of our car and ran towards the source of the commotion. Guess what we found? It was the place where a historic bridge was located. Right below the bridge is a gushing river with white water. The gap must be easily be 30 storey high. This is he location where the first bungee jumping started. Every minute, a jumper would leap into space and fell almost to the surface of the water below and bounced back up only to fall back close to the river once again. Both Nadiah and I looked challengingly at each other; our eyes probing each other to consider taking a go at it. We discussed, from where we stood, the jump didn’t seem to be difficult as the height did not seem a formidable task. Finally after much encouragement, nudging and probing by each other, we decided to pay up and make the plunge, literally. Much to our amazement that we could ever make such a decision. Just minutes before we were feeling calm while enjoying the drive and the next moment we got committed to such a decision that added an element of strength into our lives. Our hearts raged with excitement and wonderment. How could we have decided to do this!!

Being “ladies first”, Nadiah took her first step after having being fastened with the bungee cords. There was this narrow wooden plank she was to take and at the end of this, Nadiah was to take that final step and let gravity decide what to do with her. She slowly edged towards the end of the plank and was told to smile as she was on video camera. She said “Push me…push me!!”. I could hear her scream so loudly and off she went into space. Then the screams turned into “aahhs” and I must say those were not words of fear but sheer ecstasy. Nadiah bounced several times and moments later, released from her bungee cords. Nadiah emerged in total mesmerized expresssion and speechless.

It was my turn. Both my legs were tied to the cords. I slowly took small steps along the plank. I could empathize the emotions and thoughts that were going through Nadiah’s body and mind. I told myself what sort of wisdom had driven us to this decision. From that point onwards, nothing else mattered except to gather the courage to reach the end of he wooden plank and jump. Fully aware of what was there for me at the end of the plank did not help much at all. While I reached my final step, I could see people all round watching and cheering me on. I bravely look into the video camera. I lifted my arms, standing at the tip of the plank, as if in flight (and fright!!). A feeling of that height below overwhelmed me. I had never done such a thing before. Right in front of me, just less then an inch away, an open space and wilderness; right below me the river and empty space. Known and yet unknown. A very calculated hesitation in my step forward and yet an expectation of achievement if I took that leap. I decidedly smiled into the camera, screamed my head off and leaped into space, spreading my arms. Mere seconds later, I was touching the surface of the river water. I was bounced back up instantaneously and then brought back down to almost to the river. A few seconds later, the jump was over and I was hung upside down waiting to be released from the cords.

Immediately I was on a high. If only I would be staying up there and bouncing up and down forever. What a feeling and a tremendously joy that would be. Both Nadiah and I once again were trying to encourage each other to go for it another time. We finally decided to move on. Just a few minutes more, we could have decided to go for a second round. Sheer madness.

I am sharing this for the simple reason that all of us could get out of our comfort zone and do something that we have never tried before. Take the risk and what really could happen. We can learn from the outcome and live our life well. Our mind is very powerful and once we can transform our mindset, nothing is impossible. Something ridiculous might not be something silly or stupid at the outcome. It is just another experience and just living our life to the fullest. Mistakes made. So what? Our journey is about taking small steps and be able to live like we have only the next seconds left. And be able to learn while doing so. I have made many many mistakes and those are priceless and precious learnings that I picked up along my way. If I had not done the mistakes, I would not know better.

Metaphors are being shared to re-frame a person’s mindset and perspective. Children love stories. Learnings are very quickly absorbed as messages moved right across into the unconscious mind. There are no filters to sieve the messages. Adults are fond of limiting what they want to take in; so unlike children. Therefore, adults learn slowly. Children do wonders in picking up languages and everything when they were growing up. Just like a sponge. Metaphors are therefore used for changing minds and making positive transformation. The understanding and application come about when the need by the individual arises. Metaphors are subtle and yet they are fantastic teaching and therapy tools. Metaphors, yes, they speak volume.

Now…what exactly is hypnosis?

 

When someone is under hypnosis, one is really in a heightened state of relaxation. Yes, the person is awake-totally!! The person is absolutely and fully aware of everything that is going on around him or her. While he or she is in an extremely relaxed state, each single sound and word is extraordinary clear and bright. The person, being able to enter into such a relaxed condition, is very calm and acceptable to positive and beneficial suggestions that he or she are willing to receive. He or she can reject any suggestion that will do harm without hesitation.

Using metaphors under hypnosis can be very therapeutic for the person. Hypnotherapists, psychologists, NLP practitioners, therapists use storying telling in their work. Metaphors are able to bypass the critical faculty and work on the unconscious mind to rid of limiting beliefs, pain, negative emotions, anger, sadness and guilt, just to mention a few. A person is not restrained from limitations and thus, is able to do the things that he or she is not normally uncapable.

Pain control and body catalepsy are just two fine examples that anyone can enter into and either feel no pain or stiffening of the entire body to enable the body to be placed between two chairs with the eyes open respectively. A person suffering from Parkinson’s disease can walk straight under hypnosis while maintaining full consciousness of what is going on around he or her.

The moral of the message is that while we are in a complete relaxed state, we can so internalized that we can achieve feats that are normally impossible. To achieve body, mind and spirit balancing, it is undoubtedly imperative that we must constantly be relaxed and not get out of control. When we react, we are externalizing our feelings and that could cause harm onto ourselves, not to mention hurting others.

Yoga in the form of pranayama (breathing) calms the mind. Self-hypnosis can do wonders. Meditation is a form of self-hypnosis. Meditation is a heightened conscious state; and in going into a state “BEING” (internalization) one begins to realize the unmanifest sphere around us.

Next post will be “Metaphors” and more posts on NLP and Hypnosis in days ahead.

Hypnosis

It is now just half an hour to midnight. I thought it would be good to just take a few minutes to write this down before the end of today. And I will carry on with the second chapter tomorrow or the day after.

This must be very easily the most misunderstood word in the English Speaking World. Wait a minute. That might not be true. It could be 99% of the world population who have heard about the word “Hypnosis”. And they have all got it so wrong.

Why is it such a misconstrued word? No thanks to the movies and Hollywood, we get our current perception of what Hypnosis is. In reality it is just not what the movies made it out to be.

That’s all for now folks … more to come on the subject.

Goodnite.

Mind, Self And Spirit

It was this recent Sunday. I read an interesting article written by Dr. Amir Farid Isahak. I would like to share that with you.

source –

www.thestar.com.my/health

Check out page SF11

“The one who cheats and hurts others for his or her own gain or boasts to boost his ego or does things to satisfy his or her desires regardless of consequences has his or her Self being in charge.

Often he or she fluctuates between the pros and cons of proceeding with the decision or deed, but in the end his or her desires prevail. The Mind (conscious mind) is in control when correct decisions based on knowledge, understanding and logical thinking are made to give beneficial outcomes. But this is often limited by ignorance and low intelligence (low IQ), even though the intentions are good.

The Spirit is in charge when decisions and actions are marked by wisdom, which is a result of knowledge, understanding, and most importantly, Divine guidance. Some spiritual decisions and actions may seem incongruous at first, but the wisdom of such decisions and actions will become evident later.

Often, spiritual actions do not require any logical thinking. When someone needs help, the Spirit person helps unconditionally; the Mind person considers whether he or she should or shouldn’t help, especially if there are possible legal implications; and the Self person will think of ways to take advantage of the situation for his or her own benefit only, even if it means hurting that person more.”

Just thought some of you might find this inspiring.

Neuro-linguistic Programing

Neuro-linguistic Programing. NLP in short. This is a very powerful personal transformation technology. There are many tools that can be applied in various areas to make changes to behaviour(s) for personal transformation. We are hugely unconscious operated beings. Most of what we do at all times are carried out without us knowing those actions. For example – our heart beating laboriously away without us knowing it until we are bought to realize it. Now you can feel the temperature of your body and the difference of that temperature and that of the space around you. Perhaps, as you read this blog, you are becoming conscious of the weight of your feet. Even just before now, you were unconscious of your breathe and the air that was passing in and out of your nostrils.

NLP deals largely with the unconscious mind. When we are conscious, we are not at our best learning state. Babies and infants learn best at their age and the reason is purely because they have no resistance and filters to learning. Their mind is like a sponge!! Absorbing everything that comes along, right or wrong contents.

Having understood the last 2 paragraphs, as parents to young ones, as teachers to pupils, it makes a huge difference for either the parents or the teachers to use the right language. “Communication is the response we get”. If we use the proper language, babies, infants and children will be brought up with the right attitude and behaviours. When a child grows up in a family contained with problems, nothing but just problems, the chance of this child becoming an adult with an appropriate outlook in life is slim. He or she is unsble to integrate into society. A tall order indeed and how true most of the time. As parents and teachers, we hold heavy responsibilities in the things we say and do. We are role models to the young ones. Young ones going through their imprinting years taking in what we say and do literally without filters. Therefore, when they grow up and they do behave different than how we wish them to be, let’s ponder who is at fault that might be. Be careful what how we carry ourselves in front of these kids!!

There is an enormous resource on NLP and its practical application in every aspect of life-issues, business, politics, sports, therapies, coaching, negotiations, etc. As I progress with this blog, I will certainly look forward to sharing many aspects of NLP and its applications.

That’s all for now.

A Good Sense Of Personal Accomplishment

Thanks for visiting my Blog. You must have guessed. My name is Franco Yong.

I have meant to publish a blog for about 2 years and now I have done it. Not need to regret as what is important is what I do for the time ahead. That was in January 16, 2007. Now I have created 5 blog-sites with Blogger. I am so happy. Indeed, what a beginning for 2007!!

Today I have started with WordPress. I am going to have this blog and another one that I will begin with soon.

That’s not all. On January 20, 2007, I launched my website for teddy bears. I have dedicated that site to all the children of the world.

From that moment on January 16 onwards, I am going to launch myself right into the space of blogging and e-business. And I am serious and being me, I don’t ever give up. I am going to stay in cybersphere for a long long time. And make a wave or two during the journey. I am going to enjoy the adventures.

I hope you will come by regularly to visit my blogs and share with me, like I do, about Mind, Body, Spirit And Fluttering Thoughts and eBizUniversity – the world of eBusiness and Bloggings. Till the my next publication …

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We Are Made Of Dreams

The cyberspace journey might not be going as planned for many of us embarking on it. Who says it is going to without challenges and hiccups? As long as we keep that dream alive, we will reach the end of that rainbow. The trip is going to be rough, cold and lonely time and time again. Achieving dreams are always that way. We have to be tough when the going gets tough. We must persevere to enjoy the fruit of our dream. We must toil. We must resist the easy temptations to give up on our dreams. We must be strong and learn every bit we can. We are the power of our own dreams. Live those dreams and keep the courage to leap, spread our wings and fly!!

I wish to share that and the following inspirational story before before I progress further into my cyberblog roller-coaster with myself and everyone I have the fortune to be connected with.

DREAMS

A wonderful story for any age…..

The first day of school our professor introduced himself and
challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know. I stood
up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder.
I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me
with a smile that that lit up her entire being.

She said, “Hi, handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old.
Can I give you a hug?” I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “Of
course you may!” and she gave me a giant squeeze.

“Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?” I asked.
She jokingly replied, “I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married,
have a couple of children, and then retire and travel.”

“No seriously,” I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to
be taking on this challenge at her age.

“I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting
one!” she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and share a
chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next
three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was
always mesmerized listening to this “time machine” as she shared her
wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily
made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled
in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was
living it up.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football
banquet. I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and
stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech,
she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a
little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said,
“I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is
killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell
you what I know.”

As we laughed she cleared her throat and began: “We do not stop
playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There
are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving
success. “You have to laugh and find humor every day. You’ve got to
have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many
people walking around who are dead and don’t even know it!”

“There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If
you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t
do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am
eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do
anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That
doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always
finding the opportunity in change.”

“Have no regrets. The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we
did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear
death are those with regrets.”

She concluded her speech by courageously singing The Rose. She
challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our
daily lives. At the years end Rose finished the college degree she had
begun all those years ago.

One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.

Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to
the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s never too late to
be all you can possibly be.
Lessons:

1. You are never too old to learn.
2. Laugh and find humor everyday .
3. Don’t let change overwhelm you, let change help you find
opportunities you may have never seen!

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams
— Eleanor Roosevelt

Dream as if you’ll live forever. Live as if you’ll die today.
— James Dean

Advice

Do you have a dream, a wish, then turn it into a goal today – break it
down, take one step, then another and accomplish your dream.
— Catherine Pulsifer

The start of my journey into cyberspace.

My name is Franco Yong. I hail from Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.

This journal will be my journey, adventure, experience and challenges into the realm of cyberspace of eBuiness or eCommerce, internet marketing, online shopping and blogging. I will also provide tips and links for doing business online as well as blogging. I will also hope to share with those just starting up a blog or thinking of starting up a blog what to do in their proceeding days ahead. This will be a day-by-day guide to them to set up a blog as I had experienced it before.

Now my thoughts about the rest of my cyberspace journey for since November, 2007.

Many years I have been buying products of different sorts online. “What a great business to be into”, I told myself. For years I had the urge to get my hands into the field of eBusiness. I never really got to do it until November 2006. I guessed just like anyone else, I was putting it off as long as I can. I simply convinced myself that the realm of the unknown can be put-off till another day and then another day.

One destined day in November last year, I decided to learn more about the unfamiliar and taking up the challenge. Next day, I paid a hefty sum of money and got myself enrolled into an internet marketing workshop. For the next 2 1/2 days, I told myself that I should have started the journey the moment I had that fire to do so. Well, how true the saying goes – “Better late than never”. And at the age of 52!!

Today it is exactly 13 weeks ago since I launched my teddy bear website. The journey might seem brief considering that I attended the workshop in mid November 2006. It had been a challenging 8 weeks prior to the website launch. The workshop had provided me with an understanding of some of the areas that I could consider.

Options were available to me for to look at which business model would be appropriate for me. I would have taken the easy route and either launched the platform based on affiliate programs or drop-shippers. Another choice was e-books.

I chose to source a product, promote and market it. It has to be something that is well-liked, suitable for all occasions, simple and light to deliver to customers. Of course, the profit margins have to be uncompromisingly attractive!! I decided to sell teddy bears. These teddy bears that are unlike those generally available in the marketplace. I headed to the bookstores. I bought books and even more books. Books included topics covering Internet marketing, SEO, Blogging, Video-blogging, eBay, Dreamweaver 8. I read and read…trying to gain a more in-depth understanding of the sorts of application of the knowledge gained from the workshop on a subject I have not idea of at the beginning and yet so complex.

Sourcing for the right teddy bear product has taken a month. I began designing the teddy bear website. However, with the tight time line that I had imposed on myself to launch my website, I finally passed that task to a webmaster. Armed with the knowledge I have equipped myself from workshop and the books, I worked with the webmaster to structure the website that way it should be as per recommendations I sourced from books. Just a piece of advice here. Never leave it to your webmaster entirely to create and design the website. There are just too many other considerations besides the look and feel of the website. For a website to be able to attract traffic, it is critically important that keywords, meta-tags, site optimization, ranking,Google AdWords , blog are considered. All these I had to work with the webmaster in addition to the shopping cart and adding a blog to the website.

Finally on January 20, 2007 I was ready to uploaded my website and it was done.

For the first 2 weeks, nothing happened as far as money making was concerned. I was tweaking areas such as my keywords, landing pages, page titles, blog, , robots, Google Analytics. I was also working on my blog, http://my1teddybear.blogspot.com, with the hope to promote and drive certain amount interests to the website. I simultaneously initiated another blog, http://francoyong.blogspot.com. This blog is about Mind, Body And Spirit including numerous other thoughts that might come along the way.

Further area I worked on was Google AdWords – activated sponsored links. That effort, immediately within the same hour, drove my unexpected traffic (being a novice) to the website from all over the world। I had 85 visitors within the first 5 hours of the Google AdWords being activated. Believe me now!! Indeed Google Adwords does work. I generated about 3.5% conversion on average. Over a 5-week duration, I received orders amounting to just over USD 4,000 from the world at large. I must say that is pretty impressive for a start-up for my teddy bear website.

Oh…another thing. I also extend my support for now, to two international orphanage homes as well as one in Malaysia. In total there are 150 international orphans and more children will be added as I go along. Furthermore, with the money earned from the teddy bear website, I will set aside 20% for hungry children in extreme poverty. 1 child in the world dies of hunger every 3 seconds. That’s the least reason these children should die this way.

I am happy for the path and the milestones I have covered so far.

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