Archive for July, 2007



Morgan has provided me an insight into her perspective of what FEAR is really all about. She went through a very challenging journey that not many of us have experienced. Many would have given up for good. She conquered her previous perception of fear. She has a new meaning that gurus should adopt. Morgan just recently shared the FEAR she went through and what she thought of it then and what she thinks of it now. She wrote so eloquently. She indeed has style!! Morgan. Over to you.

A song. A lovely Mandarin song (I’m sorry, gals and guys who don’t understand Chinese but the picture does speak a thousand words). Snippets of playful romance and finally leading to the words – “I love you”.

Your first time. Can you remember when and how you said these 3 little magic words?? What was the response you got??

For those waiting for these magic words, how would you’ve reacted when these are being said to you? Would you take the choice to say these words first?? Or just wait…

Many of us have a different take about what “Happiness” is about. Here is Roshawn Hall’s perspective.

SECRET OF MIND: Using Positive Affirmations to Achieve Success

If you can read this, your brain is 50% faster than those who can’t. Now make an attempt.

fi yuo cna raed tihs, yuo hvae a sgtrane mnid, too.
Cna yuo raed tihs? Olny 55 plepoe tuo fo 100 anc.

i cdnuolt blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid, aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dseno’t mtaetr in waht oerdr the ltteres in a wrod are, the olny iproamtnt tihng is taht the frsit and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed it whotuit a pboerlm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Azanmig huh? yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt! if you can raed tihs forwrad it sahred whti firends.

I thought I’ve some fun today. A Malaysian song. A very lively song and simple to sing along. Very popular song that goes many many years back. Check out the video.

“Be the change you want to see in the world”

Mahatma Gandhi

Golden Thoughts

A young man learns what’s most important in life from the guy next door.

It had been some time since Jack had seen the old man. College, girls, career, and life itself got in the way. In fact, Jack moved clear across the country in pursuit of his dreams. There, in the rush of his busy life, Jack had little time to think about the past and often no time to spend with his wife and son. He was working on his future, and nothing could stop him.

Over the phone, his mother told him, ‘Mr. Belser died last night. The funeral is Wednesday.’ Memories flashed through his mind like an old newsreel as he sat quietly remembering his childhood days.

‘Jack, did you hear me?’

‘Oh, sorry, Mom. Yes, I heard you. It’s been so long since I thought of him. I’m sorry, but I honestly thought he died years ago,’ Jack said.

‘Well, he didn’t forget you. Every time I saw him he’d ask how you were doing. He’d reminisce about the many days you spent over ‘his side of the fence’ as he put it,’ Mom told him.

‘I loved that old house he lived in,’ Jack said.

‘You know, Jack, after your father died, Mr. Belser stepped in to make sure you had a man’s influence in your life,’ she said.

‘He’s the one who taught me carpentry,’ he said. ‘I wouldn’t be in this business if it weren’t for him. He spent a lot of time teaching me things he thought were important . Mom, I’ll be there for the funeral,’ Jack said.

As busy as he was, he kept his word. Jack caught the next flight to his hometown. Mr. Belser’s funeral was small and uneventful. He had no children of his own, and most of his relatives had passed away.

The night before he had to return home, Jack and his Mom stopped by to see the old house next door one more time.

Standing in the doorway, Jack paused for a moment. It was like crossing over into another dimension, a leap through space and time. The house was exactly as he remembered. Every step held memories. Every picture, every piece of furniture . Jack stopped suddenly.

‘What’s wrong, Jack?’ his Mom asked. ‘The box is gone,’ he said. ‘What box?’ Mom asked.

‘There was a small gold box that he kept locked on top of his desk. I must have asked him a thousand times what was inside. All he’d ever tell me was ‘the thing I value most,’‘ Jack said.

It was gone. Everything about the house was exactly how Jack remembered it, except for the box. He figured someone from the Belser family had taken it.

‘Now I’ll never know what was so valuable to him,’ Jack said. ‘I better get some sleep. I have an early flight home, Mom.’

It had been about two weeks since Mr. Belser died. Returning home from work one day Jack discovered a note in his mailbox. ‘Signature required on a package. No one at home. Please stop by the main post office within the next three days,’ the note read.

Early the next day Jack retrieved the package. The small box was old and looked like it had been mailed a hundred years ago. The handwriting was difficult to read, but the return address caught his attention. ‘Mr. Harold Belser’ it read. Jack took the box out to his car and ripped open the package. There inside was the gold box and an envelope. Jack’s hands shook as he read the note inside.

‘Upon my death, please forward this box and its contents to Jack Bennett. It’s the thing I valued most in my life.’ A small key was taped to the letter. His heart racing, as tears filling his eyes, Jack carefully unlocked the box. There inside he found a beautiful gold pocket watch.

Running his fingers slowly over the finely etched casing, he unlatched the cover. Inside he found these words engraved:

‘Jack, Thanks for your time! -Harold Belser.’

‘The thing he valued most was . . . my time’

Jack held the watch for a few minutes, then called his office and cleared his appointments for the next two days. ‘Why?‘ Janet, his assistant asked.

‘I need some time to spend with my son,’ he said. ‘Oh, by the way, Janet, thanks for your time!’

‘Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away.’

Think about this. You may not realize it, but it’s 100% true.

1. At least 2 people in this world love you so much they would die for you.

2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way. Yes I know who!

3. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you. I agree.. Especially when they finally know all we did are for their good..

4. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep. really!

5. You mean the world to someone.

6. If not for you, someone may not be living.

7. You are special and unique.

8. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good can still come from it.

9. When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look: you most likely turned your back on the world.

10. Someone that you don’t even know exists loves you.

11. Always remember the compliments you received. Forget about the rude remarks.

12. Always tell someone how you feel about them; you will feel much better when they know and you’ll both be happy.

13. If you have a great friend, take the time to let them know that they are great.

I love to share one of my buddies’ posting in his blog to you. It’s meaningful and goes to show that love conquers all. Money doesn’t buy everything.

Here’s just a snippet from his blog. For more, do read the rest in his blog filled with other interesting entries.

Ever since I started blogging and learn about the Internet, I am amazed at how many people are earning a living online. I think it is a wonderful thing, to be able to earn a living from home! Before long, one would have heard of some big names in this arena of making money online! I was thrilled by the possibility of earning that much! One would be blind not to noticed the number of visitors they get per day! Obviously many want to emulate their successes. They become the icons of the Internet World and become sought after speakers at all sorts of Symposiums and Conferences. Well and good and I admire their capabilities, intelligence and perseverance.

Listening..Learning..Living: The most successful people! By Jang Bok Jae

Christina said –

2.Franco Yong at Misson Teddy Bear his mission is to give Teddy Bears to kids in need, never having love & for the sick and needy kids that will bring smiles to their faces. this is truly a charitable act. Franco speaks of love & giving Francos motto: “We must be fully responsible for all the decisions we take. Mind, Body And Spirit”
Franco The Charity blogger award

The Charity Blogger Award For those who use blogging to help others and to raise awareness of those in need. Those who post missing persons posters, charity links, or who are involved in fund raising campaigns, or who make posts about charitable causes. Those who care enough to help others deserve this award.

Here’s my take.

There’re good people all over the world. They’re all around us. It’s because they’re good people, they don’t go around making themselves noticed. One person is Christina. Today, Christina has indeed made my day. She has given an award to me. By doing so she has inspired me to further my cause of wanting to make a good difference in those lives that might not even get a chance to live through another day. The hungry, the starving and those who need vitamins, medicine would just need USD 1.00 a day per person to have that difference from being alive. If only each of the billions of us on this planet could just give USD 1.00 a year, just imagine how profound a transformation that would make to their lives and those connected to them?

Christina. I say “a BIG thank you” to you. You’ve inspired me to go for another mile and another and another. Thank You!!

ZZZzzz … Isn’t sleep such an enjoyable thing to do? Most of our days on this earth is spent on sleeping. Why is sleep then so so important? Insomnia is deemed by many as a unbearable torture!! I can’t sleep. Have we thought of making sleep as a habit? Perhaps, many of us are already practicing it.

So what is sleep and why are we into it in such a big time? In Wikipedia “SLEEP” means –

Sleep is the state of natural rest observed in humans and throughout the animal kingdom, in all mammals and birds, and in many reptiles, amphibians, and fish.

In humans, other mammals, and many other animals that have been studied – such as fish, birds, mice, ants, and fruit-flies – regular sleep is necessary for survival. The capability for arousal from sleep is a protective mechanism and also necessary for health and survival.

Let’s take a look at the function of sleep. What do we gain from having this ritual that we call “sleep”?


Sleep may be a dynamic time of healing and growth for organisms. For example, during stages 3 and 4, or slow-wave sleep, growth hormone levels increase, and immune function changes. In some studies, sleep deprivation led to decrements in immune function, and extreme, extended deprivation to altered metabolism.[citation needed] But sleep deprivation has not been conclusively shown to significantly impact organ, muscular, cardiac or other somatic function in ways that suggest that any of these systems are primarily influenced by sleep.

Anabolic/catabolic cycle

Non-REM sleep may be an anabolic state marked by physiological processes of growth and rejuvenation of the organism’s immune, nervous, muscular, and skeletal systems (but see above). Sleep might restore neurons and increase production of brain proteins and certain hormones. Wakefulness may perhaps be viewed as a cyclical, temporary, hyperactive catabolicawaken?” instead of “Why do we sleep?” yields a different perspective of how sleep and its stages contribute to a healthy organism. state during which the organism acquires nourishment and procreates. Also, during sleep, an organism is vulnerable; when awake it may perceive and avoid threats. Asking “Why do we


According to the ontogenetic hypothesis of REM sleep, the activity occurring during neonatal REM sleep (or active sleep) seems to be particularly important to the developing organism (Marks et al., 1995). Studies investigating the effects of deprivation of active sleep have shown that deprivation early in life can result in behavioral problems, permanent sleep disruption, decreased brain mass (Mirmiran et al. 1983), and an abnormal amount of neuronal cell death (Morrissey, Duntley & Anch, 2004).

Memory processing

Many scientists believe that memory depends on sleep. REM sleep appears to help the consolidation of spatial and procedural memory, while slow-wave sleep helps with the consolidation of declarative memories. When experimental subjects are asked to memorize academic material, especially if it involves organized, systematic thought, their retention is markedly increased after a night’s sleep. On the other hand, the effectiveness of mere rote memorization is similar with or without an intervening period of sleep. Some memory theorists argue that saving memory directly into long-term memory is a slow and error-prone process, and propose that cerebral input is first saved in a temporary memory store, and then encoded and transferred into long-term memory during sleep (Zhang, 2004). But although many findings support these ideas, many sleep scientists do not believe that sleep’s primary function is related to memory. They point out that many of the studies cited by proponents of this theory are contradictory or confounded by the side-effects caused by the experimental manipulations. A more salient issue is that only a handful of studies have shown that sleep actually influences brain plasticity, the mechanism underlying remembering and forgetting (Benington and Frank, 2003).


One view, “Preservation and Protection”, is that sleep serves an adaptive function. It protects the individual during that portion of the 24-hour day in which being awake, and hence roaming around, would place the individual at greatest risk. Organisms do not require 24 hours to feed themselves and meet other necessities. From this perspective of adaptation, organisms are safer by staying out of harm’s way where potentially they could be prey to other stronger organisms. They sleep at times that maximize their safety, given their physical capacities and their habitats. (Allison & Cicchetti, 1976; Webb, 1982).

But this theory does not explain why the brain disengages from the external environment during normal sleep. A more advantageous adaptation for animals would be to seclude themselves but remain quietly awake to avoid predation. In fact, animals who are preyed upon usually disengage from the external environment to a lesser degree. Another argument against the theory is that sleep is not simply a passive consequence of removing the animal from the environment, but is a “drive”: animals alter their behaviors in order to obtain sleep. Therefore, circadian regulation is more than sufficient to explain periods of activity and quiescence that are adaptive to an organism, but the more peculiar specializations of sleep probably serve different and unknown functions.

These theories are not mutually exclusive; each may contain truths that may be validated in the future. Recent studies show that sleep is phylogenetically ancient (Shaw et al Science 2000, Hendricks et al Neuron 2000). Thus, to understand the function of sleep, we must study simple animals that predated arthropoda and chordata phyla, as well as the roles of proteins and enzymes in basic metabolism. Some sleep features are unique to mammals (e.g. REM sleep and thermoregulation) and so probably did not occur in sleep-like states of primordial metazoa.

Let’s forget the complex jargons and stuff. We all need and want sleep. How do we get it without encounter difficulty. Simply put…the following tips may just help you sleep better.
1.Sleep only when you’re sleepy
….This reduces the time you are awake in bed.

2.If you can’t fall asleep within 20 minutes, get up and do something boring until you feel sleepy
……Sit quietly in the dark or read the warranty on your refrigerator. Don’t expose yourself to bright light while you are up. The light gives cues to your brain that it is time to wake up.

3.Don’t take naps
……This will ensure you are tired at bedtime. If you just can’t make it through the day without a nap, sleep less than one hour, before 3 pm.

4.Get up and go to bed the same time every day
…..Even on weekends! When your sleep cycle has a regular rhythm, you will feel better.

5.Refrain from exercise at least 4 hours before bedtime (sex not counted)
…..Regular exercise is recommended to help you sleep well, but the timing of the workout is important. Exercising in the morning or early afternoon will not interfere with sleep.

6.Develop sleep rituals
…..It is important to give your body cues that it is time to slow down and sleep. Listen to relaxing music, read something soothing for 15 minutes, have a cup of caffeine free tea, do relaxation exercises.

7.Only use your bed for sleeping and sex
…..Refrain from using your bed to watch TV, pay bills, do work or reading. So when you go to bed your body knows it is time to sleep (or have sex).

8.Stay away from caffeine, nicotine and alcohol at least 4-6 hours before bed
….Caffeine and nicotine are stimulants that interfere with your ability to fall asleep. Coffee, tea, cola, cocoa, chocolate and some prescription and non-prescription drugs contain caffeine. Cigarettes and some drugs contain nicotine. Alcohol may seem to help you sleep in the beginning as it slows brain activity, but you will end end up having fragmented sleep.

9.Have a light snack before bed
……If your stomach is too empty, that can interfere with sleep. However, if you eat a heavy meal before bedtime, that can interfere as well. Dairy products and turkey contain tryptophan, which acts as a natural sleep inducer. Tryptophan is probably why a warm glass of milk is sometimes recommended.

10.Take a hot bath 90 minutes before bedtime
…..A hot bath will raise your body temperature, but it is the drop in body temperature that may leave you feeling sleepy.

11.Make sure your bed and bedroom are quiet and comfortable
……A hot room can be uncomfortable. A cooler room along with enough blankets to stay warm is recommended. If light in the early morning bothers you, get a blackout shade or wear a slumber mask. If noise bothers you, wear earplugs.

12.Use sunlight to set your biological clock
…….As soon as you get up in the morning, go outside and turn your face to the sun for 15 minutes.

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A sweet friend, Christina, whom Ive just recently met in cyberspace tagged me. I guessed, I’ll have to find another 6 more friends I admire to tag making up to 12 for the list including Christina of course.

Christian Harleyblues

Kim Laketrees

Morgan The Process of a Miracle a 30 Day Experiment


Crushed by Crushed by ingsoc


Deborah Life In The Fast Lane

Allison M – great poem

Jenny How – fantastic ebay tips

Nursemyra – Gimcrack Hospital

They’re all very inspirational blogs with refreshing perspectives, thoughts and tips.


This is about Morgan’s personal story.

I met her in cyberspace a couple of weeks ago. It’s about how she overcame one of life’s most difficult challenges at her young age, and writing such a touching and real story to share so that others challenged with her same past journey could look upon her as a mentor. I hope now that you having read what Morgan has shared, you would spread this wisdom of hers with your friends and have them share the story too.

Day 17…Stepping through the door.

I haven’t written because I’ve been moving from my apartment back out to my parents’ house in Long Island. It’s a bit of a distance between both locations so much of my time has been occupied with driving and sitting in traffic.

I don’t know about anyone else in this world but when I’m driving I’m in la-la land. Some of my craziest, kookiest ideas happen during this time. That’s how I came up with this experiment.

I’m also very guilty of having conversations with myself as I drive.

I don’t know why.
Half the time I don’t even realize I’m doing it.

I tend to become aware that I am having a full on conversation with myself when I stop at red lights and notice the person in the car next to me.

All of a sudden I get real self conscious and will pretend I’m talking on my cell phone so the person in the car next to me doesn’t think I’m totally nuts.

But I do have a bit of the “Nut” factor in me.
I’m okay with that…it makes my life more interesting and at times very chaotic.

So I’m having a conversation with myself trying to really determine what I want to do in life.

I know I’m not okay with sitting in an office trading 40 + hours of my time, energy and life so that the boss can go on vacation every month while I struggle to stay above water.

Did that.
Not Interested.

I know I don’t want to go back to school again to find another career that bores the hell out of me.

So I asked myself,

“Self…..What do you want to do?”

and of course I answer myself…….

“I want to write.”

When I was in rehab two years ago I met a man by the name of “The Rev.”
He ran a few of the workshops in the rehab. I have been through so many different types of facilities and drug treatment programs and they all gave me the same information.

I had the wasn’t enough.

I needed understanding.
I needed comprehension.
I needed it to be said in a way that it hadn’t been said before.

He was the man that did this….as he quotes,

“The clarity of my words are inescapable…they pierce the heart of understanding.”

Now this was not any type of Reverend I ever met before….totally different.
The first time I met him he told us all…

“I don’t preach at the first church of the nicy nice.
This ain’t for the little old lady who sits in the first pew with hands folded, this is for addicts and alcoholics spoken in the language of the streets.”

He has quietly touched and saved so many lives with his words.

He saved my life.

I lived a life of active addiction.
I know the ways of the streets.
I know how to manipulate the best of them.
I know how to be whoever I need to be in a moment to get what I want.
I know how to hide within myself… who I am can’t be revealed.

This is not the end of the story. There is more to this story. Please click here to continue on. Otherwise there is much to be missed.

You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger…..(Buddha)

To attain knowledge, add things every day. To attain wisdom, remove things every day……(Lao-Tzu)

Within this body are hidden the five thieves-lust, wrath, greed, attachment and ego…..(Shri Guru Granth Sahib)

If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished?…..(Rumi)

Among the wealthy, compassionate men claim the richest wealth,For material wealth is possessed by even contemptible men…..(Bhagvad Gita)

Here is a story that everyone of us need to read for our very own good. I won’t let the mouse of the bag. Once you get started…reading it to the end is a must. Check it out.

An interesting reflection: Slow Down Culture

It’s been 18 years since I joined Volvo, a Swedish company. Working for them
has proven to be an interesting experience. Any project here takes 2 years
to be finalized, even if the idea is simple and brilliant. It’s a rule.

Globalised processes have caused in us (all over the world) a general sense
of searching for immediate results. Therefore, we have come to possess a
need to see immediate results. This contrasts greatly with the slow
movements of the Swedish. They, on the other hand, debate, debate, debate,
hold x quantity of meetings and work with a slowdown scheme. At the end,
this always yields better results.

Said in another words:

1. Sweden is about the size of San Paulo, a state in Brazil.

2. Sweden has 2 million inhabitants.

3. Stockholm, has 500,000 people.

4. Volvo, Escania, Ericsson, Electrolux, Nokia are some of its renowned
companies. Volvo supplies the NASA.

The first time I was in Sweden, one of my colleagues picked me up at the
hotel every morning. It was September, bit cold and snowy. We would arrive
early at the company and he would park far away from the entrance (2000
employees drive their car to work). The first day, I didn’t say anything,
either the second or third. One morning I asked, “Do you have a fixed
parking space? I’ve noticed we park far from the entrance even when there
are no other cars in the lot.” To which he replied, “Since we’re here early
we’ll have time to walk, and whoever gets in late will be late and need a
place closer to the door. Don’t you think? Imagine my face.

Nowadays, there’s a movement in Europe name Slow Food. This movement
establishes that people should eat and drink slowly, with enough time to
taste their food, spend time with the family, friends, without rushing. Slow
Food is against its counterpart: the spirit of Fast Food and what it stands
for as a lifestyle. Slow Food is the basis for a bigger movement called Slow
Europe, as mentioned by Business Week.

Basically, the movement questions the sense of ‘hurry’ and ‘craziness’
generated by globalisation, fueled by the desire of “having in quantity”
(life status) versus ‘having with quality’, ‘life quality’ or the ‘quality of
being’. French people, even though they work 35 hours per week, are more
productive than Americans or British. Germans have established 28.8 hour
workweeks and have seen their productivity been driven up by 20%. This slow
attitude has brought forth the US’s attention, pupils of the fast and the
‘do it now!’

This no-rush attitude doesn’t represent doing less or having a lower
productivity. It means working and doing things with greater quality,
productivity, perfection, with attention to detail and less stress. It means
reestablishing family values, friends, free and leisure time. Taking the
‘now’, present and concrete, versus the ‘global’, undefined and anonymous.
It means taking humans’ essential values, the simplicity of living.

It stands for a less coercive work environment, more happy, lighter and more
productive where humans enjoy doing what they know best how to do. It’s time
to stop and think on how companies need to develop serious quality with
no-rush that will increase productivity and the quality of products and
services, without losing the essence of spirit.

In the movie, Scent of a Woman, there’s a scene where Al Pacino asks a girl
to dance and she replies, “I can’t, my boyfriend will be here any minute
now”. To which Al responds, “A life is lived in an instant”. Then they dance
to a tango.

Many of us live our lives running behind time, but we only reach it when we
die of a heart attack or in a car accident rushing to be on time. Others are
so anxious of living the future that they forget to live the present, which
is the only time that truly exists. We all have equal time throughout the
world. No one has more or less. The difference lies in how each one of us
does with our time. We need to live each moment. As John Lennon said, “Life
is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans”.

Congratulations for reading till the end of this message. There are many who
will have stopped in the middle so as not to waste time in this globalised

Yearning for more, this is another “must read” … Slow Dance.

Here is the link where you can obtain a heap of information about what alternative medicine is, why people go for it and why conventional medical science are skeptical about it. It’s good to ponder…

Click here.

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“Carefully watch your thoughts for they become your words

Manage and watch your words for they will become your actions.

Consider and judge for your actions for they have become your habits.

Acknowledge and watch your habits for they shall become your values.

Understand your values for they become your destiny.”

Mahatma Gandhi