Archive for the ‘Awakening’ Category

   “Life moves pretty fast.

    If you don’t stop and look around once in awhile,

    you could miss it.”

    “Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle”

Below is an article that I picked up from Maggie’s blog and I’ve requested her permission to post it here to share with everyone.

It’s about – Loving Yourself.

Relationships are how we relate to others. We have a relationship with everyone that we know and who is close to us. This is not reserved for our family or someone who we are involved with. Every interaction we have with another is the act of relating.

If we have a problem relating to others, this affects our ability to have supportive relationships. We have to ask ourselves if our relationships are supportive and if they are not, then ask ourselves why they are not. Everyone wants the perfect romance or marriage, but not everyone looks at the mechanics of how to have one. If we fail to have supportive relationships in our life, how can we have the perfect relationship?

 

Lets look at what is a supportive relationship. The word support is very important. It means that our interaction supports another. This means more than supporting another in their decisions or actions, rather through the act of supporting, we honour and validate who the other person is. In turn, this validates who we are. Both are supported, no one loses, no ego’s involved, and in so doing, we honour the relationship. This is what it means to have a supportive relationship. This is the desired goal. Now, how do we accomplish it?

 

There are several reasons why we may have problems relating to others. One primary reason is our behavioural patterns. These patterns are developed over a course of our lives. It starts when we are children, through to our adolescence, and by the time we are adults, we have established our behavioural patterns for our relationships. We can have both positive and negative behavioural patterns.

 

What causes negative behavioural patterns? If we look at a person’s life, we can readily see which is negative or positive behaviour. But we may not easily see the cause of the negative.

 

The cause usually resides in the past in which a trauma or an event occurred that effects how we behave in the future. If that event occurs again, or if something happens currently to cause us to experience that trauma again, that is when we respond to it. Situations can act as triggers, which may cause us to react to the person that is involved in the situation. This causes a negative behavioural pattern. Until we can identify the problem, we are powerless to do anything about it.

 

Whatever the situation was to trigger a reactionary response, the cause must be discovered in order to heal the original fracture. In Shamanism terms this is called a Soul Fracture. A fracture of the Self. Each self is part of the whole which comprises the soul. Soul Fractures occur for a variety of reasons and may or may not relate to this current lifetime. Traumas have occurred in past lifetimes that may or may not have been addressed. The Soul holds the body of these life experiences. Furthermore, the life process itself can be very painful for some. Past experiences that have dishonoured, or invalidated who we are, cause us to close ourselves off even more. These experiences build up over a matter of time and unless a clearing occurs, emotional or physical problems may develop.

 

If a problem has been identified, what can we do about it? One can try to clear it themselves, or one can go to a practioner who is adept at doing clearings. In order to clear, one must identify the original cause that created a behavioural pattern. Then, move through the experience of that situation, and experience the emotions that we have associated with it. Then, we must have closure or completion. This means completing it anyway that we are able. As long as, we feel that we have a sense of completion for the experience.

 

So, after we have identified the cause and received closure or completion, then we let it go. This does not mean to forgive or forget, that is not what it is to release. The act of releasing is our readiness to heal. Only after the experience has cleared can healing occur.

 

The healing process is a time when we must be very loving to ourselves. If we beat up ourselves about the experience that had caused us harm or our past reaction to it, then we cannot heal. In being loving to ourselves, we validate what we had experienced at that time and our emotions for it. Our emotions are always valid. So it’s important for us to do this self validation in order to heal.

 

Love is the energy that helps us to heal, whether we give this love to ourselves, or we receive it from another. When we look at having supportive, loving relationships in our life, why not start with ourselves? Because that is where love comes from. This is what transforms our relationships and our lives. We must love the self first. And we cannot do that until we have healed and become whole.

There are plenty more wonderful articles that Maggie has written. Check it out HERE and enjoy.

Here is an article I read in The Star today. It’s a short story about Ven Heng Sure. Here is a brief insight into an interview with him. Before we start, just a little about him.

Borned Christopher R. Clowey in 1949, in Teledo, Ohio, he took the name of Ven Heng Sure in 1976. He attended the University of California in Berkeley in the 60s and attained Masters in Oriental Languages. Later, he attained a PhD in Graduate Thelogical Union in Berkeley. He’s 58 now and has been in robes for 30 years.

Back in 1977, a young monk in his full robes of 7-piece sash and the Avatamsaka Sutra tied to his back, took 3 steps and then made a full prostration by the roadside. He got up and repeated the procedure – “san bu, yi bai” meaning “3 steps, 1 bow” – Throughout the day, every day, for 2 years and 9 months!!

That was the bowing pilgrimage undertaken by Venerable Heng Sure from May 1977 till the end of 1979. He covered some 1,280 km of the California Costal Highway from Pasadena to Utah. At the same time, he took a vow of silence for 6 year.

Rain or shine, snow or hail, this young man remained steadfast to his religious practice despite being viewed as weird by the American public at the time.

The following are some of his answers in a recent email interview.

“Why the vow of silence during the bowing pilgrimage?”

The bowing pilgrimage helped me to begin to see through the illusion of self-importance; the silence vow taught me that my inner wiring was crooked. I couldn’t tell the truth from a lie because my motive for speech was so often a wish to make others like me. If a joke or an exaggeration could get laugh then I would twist or embellish the truth without a care. When one person prevents one arrogant thought and one crooked word from entering the mainstream social interchange, then that’s a wholesome deed. Our minds touch each other; when my mind is free of anger and cynicism, I’ve benefited the world.

“After 30 years in robes, what is the most gratifying things you’ve gained?”

A growing awareness that my thoughts matter a great deal to the well-being of the planet and our larger human and non-human family. If i can refuse to get depressed or frightened by what people do, if I can resolutely bring my chaotic thoughts back to stillness, and wonder at the marvel of the infinite conditions swirling around me, and if I can vow to never harm a soul with thought, word, or deed, then my feet are on the path to awakening.

For more wisdom, visit Ven Heng Sure’s blog by clicking HERE.

Awareness

The event is nothing;The respond is everything.

We do have a choice;

We can’t change the event but we can change our perception.

An event is always in the past tense. Do we want to live the past? It’s gone. That event coming back will not be exactly the same. Just like water in a flowing river, that water will never ever be the same. Do we want to expand our energies in an event that has already gone past for good? An anger, an irritation, a frustration, a sadness, a guilt, a fear.

Making a choice is being in the “Presence”. Being in “Now”. Letting the Past go. Releasing it. Finding a closure. Forgiving. Our life’s meant to be a joyful journey. We’re all here to live. Forgiving and releasing what has just pasted is the beginning to be aware of our Being.

Being in the Presence. Being in Now.

Similar to being in a relationship. Many of us during the times when we’re being with our parents, spouses, friends or children, we’re in a state of drifted lost. We’re not being aware of the joy of those connections. Our daily pressures and demand distant us from enjoying those connections. We tend to be lost in enjoying those relationships. We’re lost in our own thoughts while being with them. We aren’t being in an Aware state. We’re not in the flow. We’re being around our relationships for the sake of just being around. How often do we enjoy everyone single moment when we’re being around them. It’s not the amount time that we spent being with them. It’s about the quality time, although it might be for just a few minutes. If each of those minutes is a joy to both parties, those moments were not lost.

Just like when we fall in love, each moment is a blissful romantic moment. We’re in the flow; we’re being in absolute awareness; we’re being in absolute presence.

Think about this story…

A king was once asked by a man, “how can you be in a state of constant awareness. You’ve all the richness to corrupt you, to spoil you. You’ve the power to distract you“.

The king replied, “why not. Let me show you. Now carry this hot pot of oil on your head and never spill a drop. Follow me for a stroll beyond the gates of my palace“.

The king and the man walked past busy streets filled with aromas, sounds of music, whispers, snake charmers and beautiful women.

Having returning to the palace after the walk, the king asked the man, “now relate to me what you’d heard, the smell, things you’ve seen and felt “.

The man replied, “how could I’ve done any of those. I was concentrating on making sure the pot of oil was steadily balanced on my head“.

The king replied, “there you go. You’re in an absolute state of bliss. In total awareness and nothing else in important. You’re in the Presence. The events around you didn’t matter at all. You’re totally absorb with the moments while the pot of oil was on your head“.

Just like

– each breathe that we take, it’s a new breathe. We chose to enjoy that new breathe or treat it as just another breathe. “If it is to be, it is up to me“.Make that choice NOW.