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She is a true winner and champion. I’m sure nothing is impossible to her after that journey she went through.

“I lived in the cesspool of addiction for over 12 years of my life. For the past two years I have rebuilt and re-created every aspect of my life in order to never return to a life of active addiction. I’m pushing past any other limited beliefs I developed through the course of my life, to discover once and for all if anything truly is possible.”

The Process of a Miracle a 30 Day Experiment.

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The Yoga System

Yoga in Daily Life® by Mahamandaleshwar Paramhans Swami Maheshwarananda is a comprehensive system of Yoga with a holistic approach to health, like Ayurveda. The main goal of the Yoga in Daily Life system is to attain and maintain physical health, mental health, social health, spiritual health and eventually achieve self-realization. Based on the authentic Yoga tradition Yoga in Daily Life contains the pure essence of the original Yoga teachings and was developed specifically to suit the mind and lifestyle of modern civilisation.This system of Yoga offers a simple means of relief from both physical and mental stress – guiding the way to achieve good health, harmony, inner peace and spiritual development. Yoga in Daily Life is not limited only to the physically fit and able, but can be practised by people of all ages and states of health. Yoga in Daily Life has been introduced within the education system, at schools and universities, in rehabilitation spas and hospitals as well as in many yoga-centres throughout the world. Today, incorporated non-profit Yoga in Daily Life Associations are established in twenty-four countries around the world, each being actively involved in local, national and international community projects.
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* 1 Basic teachings
* 2 Asana, Pranayama, Relaxation, Concentration
* 3 Chakras and Kundalini
* 4 Hatha Yoga Kriyas
* 5 Khatu Pranam
* 6 Raja Kriya and Yoga Nidra
* 7 Self-Inquiry and Mantra Meditation
* 8 Vegetarian Nourishment and Ayurveda
* 9 External links

 

[edit] Basic teachings

 

All classical Yoga exercises like Asana and Pranayama and the four Yoga ways namely Raja Yoga, Bhakti Yoga, Gyana or Jnana Yoga and Karma Yoga are included in this system.

 

Additional the system completes with detailed teaching about Chakras and Kundalini, Hatha Yoga Kriyas, Kathu Pranam, Self-Inquiry and Mantra Meditation, Raja Kriya and Yoga Nidra as well as vegetarian nourishment and Ayurveda guidelines.

 

[edit] Asana, Pranayama, Relaxation, Concentration

 

The system Yoga in Daily Life® (ISBN 3-85052-000-5) has an eight-level-structure, which should be followed systematically, level by level. The exercises are structured so that an optimal effect for body, mind and soul is given. The first part of the exercises comprises the Sarav Hitta Asanas (exercises “good for everyone”). This preliminary exercises, practised prior to the true Yoga Asanas, offer an easy entry into the complete system. The first level has six parts, each part should be practised at least two weeks. The levels two till six should each be practised for six weeks, together with Pranayama (it is the conscious and deliberate control and regulation of the breath; Prana means breath, Ayam means to control, to regulate), Meditation and Yoga Nidra (“sleep of the yogis”). Each exercise sequence constitutes a preparation for the next level.

 

[edit] Chakras and Kundalini

 

In the book The Hidden Power in Humans – Chakras and Kundalini (ISBN 3-85052-197-4) the main 8 Chakras namely Muladhara, Swadhisthana, Manipura, Anahata, Vishuddha, Ajna, Bindu and Sahasrara and the Nadis (energy channels and energy transmitters) are explained. Detailed information about their attributes, the attributes of the Koshas (physical, mental and astral body), the 5 Tattvas (PRITHVĪ – Earth, ĀPAS – Water, TEJAS – Fire, VĀYU – Air, ĀKĀSHA – Space) and 3 Gunas (RAJAS – activity, movement, restlessness, passion; TAMAS – rigidity, laziness, darkness, ignorance; SATTVA – harmony, light, purity, knowledge), the Antahkaranas (MANAS – Mind, BUDDHI – Intellect, CHITTA – Consciousness, AHAMKĀRA – Ego) and Indriyas (senses) are given. Furthermore Jivatma, Atma and Paramatma (Soul, Self and God), the two ways of life Pravritti and Nivritti, the three obstacles on the spiritual path (Mala, Vikshepa, Avarana) and the 14 cosmic levels (Chaturdashana Lokas) are explained. Exercises for every Chakra are given. Meditation practise for awekening the Chakras include Pranayama together with Bandha. Bandha means to lock, close-off, to stop. There are four types of Bandhas (Mul Bandha – anal lock, Uddiyan Bandha – raising of the diaphragm, Jalandhar Bandha – chin lock, Maha Bandha – practice of all three Bandhas at the same time). Generally, the breath is held during the practice of the Bandhas.

 

Kundalini Yoga is a pure, spiritual science that leads to enlightenment and god-realization under the guidance of a spiritual Master. Sri Mahaprabhuji said: “Kundalini is the divine Mother. A true mother never causes harm or does anything bad to her children.” The path of the Kundalini proceeds from the Muladhara Chakra at the lower end of the spinal column up to the Sahasrara Chakra at the top of the head. But its awakening is not a physical occurrence; it consists exclusively of a development in consciousness and awakening of inner knowledge.

 

[edit] Hatha Yoga Kriyas

 

In the system Yoga in Daily Life® all Hatha Yoga Kriyas techniques in particular Neti (purification of the nose), Dhauti (purification of the esophageus and stomach), Nauli (turning of the abdominal muscles), Basti and Shank Prakshalan (complete cleaning of the intestines), Kapal Bhati Pranayam (cleansing of the frontal sinuses) and Tratak (concentration on a point or candle flame) are taught.

 

[edit] Khatu Pranam

 

This exercise sequence of 20 Asanas harmonises body, mind and soul. In the initial stage of practice, focus is given to the physical benefits. Khatu Pranam strengthens, stretches and relaxes the muscles of the whole body, promotes flexibility of the spine and regulates glandular activity. The more advanced levels of Khatu Pranam are practiced in co-ordination with the breath and with concentration on the energy centres of the body (Chakras), repeating a Mantra for every Asana.

 

[edit] Raja Kriya and Yoga Nidra

 

This lineage in teaching Raja Kriya and Yoga Nidra stems from Paramyogeshwar Sri Devpuriji, who received his initiation from Siddha Guru Sri Alakh Puriji, according to the book Sri Lila-Amrit (ISBN 3-85052-104-4), the biography of Sri Deep Narayan Mahaprabhuji, written by Dharmsamrat Paramhans Swami Madhavananda. Sri Devpuriji passed the techniques on to Sri Mahaprabhuji and it was taught to his disciples since 1880. Raja Kriya is a Meditation technique which combined Asana, Pranayama, Bandha and Mudra with Concentration, Imagination and repeating of Mantra and should be practised once a day.

 

Yoga Nidra is in the beginning used just as a physical and mental relaxation technique but should not be confused with techniques of auto-suggestion or autogenic training. The true sleep of a Yogi is a state of consciousness in which the Yogi is connected with that divine energy pervading the whole cosmos. This energy is beyond space and time and during this state of consciousness the Yogi can see past, present and future. Through Yoga Nidra the Yogi can work through karmas, as this clarity penetrates levels of the unconsciousness and subconsciousness. Experienced Yogis use Yoga Nidra for astral travels and in its highest level it leads to Samadhi.

 

[edit] Self-Inquiry and Mantra Meditation

 

The technique of Self-Inquiry Meditation develops understanding and forgiveness and it purifies the subconscious. The thinking becomes well ordered and clear and through this the practising is able to overcome and avoid many difficulties in life and it will lead to self-knowledge and self-realization.

 

A Mantra is the causal power of words; it is a syllable, a word or a sequence of words with a high spiritual vibration. There are three types of Mantras. PRAYER, GURU Mantra (represents the essence of prayer) and BĪJA Mantra (seed Mantra, assigned to each Chakra). All elements and energies in the cosmos can be influenced and guided by Mantras. A spiritual Mantra always contains the word OM (Aum) and the name of a divine incarnation. Practising Mantra includes five stages (LIKHITA – through writing, VAIKHARĪ – through speaking, UPĀMSHU – through whispering, MĀNASA – through thinking, AJAPĀ – through uninterrupted inner repetition).

 

[edit] Vegetarian Nourishment and Ayurveda

 

A high value of Yogis is living a healthy lifestyle in harmony with nature and following a vegetarian diet. To live as a vegetarian is an ethical principle, a question of responsibility for all living beings. With each breath we absorb not only oxygen, but also Prana. Prana is cosmic energy, the power in the universe that creates, preserves and changes. It is the basic element of life and consciousness. Prana is also found in food, therefore it is very important to have a healthy and wholesome vegetarian diet.

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Whoever Tells the Best Story Wins!

“Great communicators know that the best way to inspire, motivate, and persuade others is to infuse a human element into discussions through the simple telling of stories, according to Annette Simmons.

Stories help people feel acknowledged, connected, and less alone. Your stories help them feel more alive. To realize the power of stories is both an incredible opportunity and an awesome responsibility. Filled with enlightening anecdotes and practical guidance, Whoever Tells the Best Story Wins helps you to understand and use that power. You will be able to craft your own personal experiences into stories that will build consensus, win others over to your point of view, and enable better group decision making.”

Telling the best stories may be why Author Caroline Smailes succeeded in getting published so quickly.

Author Annette Simmons lists some of the best ways to tell your stories:

  1. Who-I-Am Stories
  2. Teaching Stories
  3. Vision Stories
  4. Values-in-Action Stories
  5. I-Know-What-You-Are-Thinking Stories

Annette said that people are lost in an ocean of choices:

In this ocean of choice, a meaningful story can feel like a life preserver that tethers us to something safe and important—at the very least, to a trace of humanity that proves there is a “you” communicating with them, whether the “you” is yourself or an organization you represent.

The meaning is clear: get personal. Tell your story as if you were speaking to a new acquaintance or friend you haven’t seen in a long time.

Annette’s Whoever Tells the Best Story Wins: How to Use Your Own Stories to Communicate with Power and Impact

Author Caroline’s success story posted in the story below.
Caroline’s own story of the trail to publishing.

Telling Stories

Metaphors

I remember the time when I did something that I thought was never possible for me. I always had the feeling of a desire to do it, and not having the a strong enough will to do it. Anyway, this is my story of this how I got over it!! Thinking of my exhilarating experience still get my adrenaline pumped up and excited.

I was driving along this scenic stretch of road out of Queenstown, New Zealand. I was heading towards the outskirt, just driving and taking all the warm air and the picturesque scenery in one afternoon in December 12, 1996. A friend, Nadia, was with me. The road was winding and at every turn there was another corner to negotiate. To my left was a gorge. A meandering river flowing right along it. The river water was fast flowing and I could hear the sound of the water flowing speedily along. What a wonderful feeling and a sight to behold, I told Nadiah and silently to myself. It is so peaceful although the warm air of the winter was brushing against our faces . Life was indeed fabulous and to be alive was such a good thing, I thought to myself.

20 minutes of the journey into the unknown, we heard a faint sound of screams and cheers coming through out half-wound down windows of our car. That was so strange. Out of nowhere the sound penetrated the silence and the peace around us. Being my usual inquisitive self, I suggested to Nadiah that we checked out the source of the intriguing noise. We followed the direction of where the sound was streaming from. After a short drive off-track we saw a parking lot full of cars and coaches. As we approached, the screams and laughters were so loud. We could feel the hive of activities that was taking place there.

We quickly got out of our car and ran towards the source of the commotion. Guess what we found? It was the place where a historic bridge was located. Right below the bridge is a gushing river with white water. The gap must be easily be 30 storey high. This is he location where the first bungee jumping started. Every minute, a jumper would leap into space and fell almost to the surface of the water below and bounced back up only to fall back close to the river once again. Both Nadiah and I looked challengingly at each other; our eyes probing each other to consider taking a go at it. We discussed, from where we stood, the jump didn’t seem to be difficult as the height did not seem a formidable task. Finally after much encouragement, nudging and probing by each other, we decided to pay up and make the plunge, literally. Much to our amazement that we could ever make such a decision. Just minutes before we were feeling calm while enjoying the drive and the next moment we got committed to such a decision that added an element of strength into our lives. Our hearts raged with excitement and wonderment. How could we have decided to do this!!

Being “ladies first”, Nadiah took her first step after having being fastened with the bungee cords. There was this narrow wooden plank she was to take and at the end of this, Nadiah was to take that final step and let gravity decide what to do with her. She slowly edged towards the end of the plank and was told to smile as she was on video camera. She said “Push me…push me!!”. I could hear her scream so loudly and off she went into space. Then the screams turned into “aahhs” and I must say those were not words of fear but sheer ecstasy. Nadiah bounced several times and moments later, released from her bungee cords. Nadiah emerged in total mesmerized expresssion and speechless.

It was my turn. Both my legs were tied to the cords. I slowly took small steps along the plank. I could empathize the emotions and thoughts that were going through Nadiah’s body and mind. I told myself what sort of wisdom had driven us to this decision. From that point onwards, nothing else mattered except to gather the courage to reach the end of he wooden plank and jump. Fully aware of what was there for me at the end of the plank did not help much at all. While I reached my final step, I could see people all round watching and cheering me on. I bravely look into the video camera. I lifted my arms, standing at the tip of the plank, as if in flight (and fright!!). A feeling of that height below overwhelmed me. I had never done such a thing before. Right in front of me, just less then an inch away, an open space and wilderness; right below me the river and empty space. Known and yet unknown. A very calculated hesitation in my step forward and yet an expectation of achievement if I took that leap. I decidedly smiled into the camera, screamed my head off and leaped into space, spreading my arms. Mere seconds later, I was touching the surface of the river water. I was bounced back up instantaneously and then brought back down to almost to the river. A few seconds later, the jump was over and I was hung upside down waiting to be released from the cords.

Immediately I was on a high. If only I would be staying up there and bouncing up and down forever. What a feeling and a tremendously joy that would be. Both Nadiah and I once again were trying to encourage each other to go for it another time. We finally decided to move on. Just a few minutes more, we could have decided to go for a second round. Sheer madness.

I am sharing this for the simple reason that all of us could get out of our comfort zone and do something that we have never tried before. Take the risk and what really could happen. We can learn from the outcome and live our life well. Our mind is very powerful and once we can transform our mindset, nothing is impossible. Something ridiculous might not be something silly or stupid at the outcome. It is just another experience and just living our life to the fullest. Mistakes made. So what? Our journey is about taking small steps and be able to live like we have only the next seconds left. And be able to learn while doing so. I have made many many mistakes and those are priceless and precious learnings that I picked up along my way. If I had not done the mistakes, I would not know better.

Metaphors are being shared to re-frame a person’s mindset and perspective. Children love stories. Learnings are very quickly absorbed as messages moved right across into the unconscious mind. There are no filters to sieve the messages. Adults are fond of limiting what they want to take in; so unlike children. Therefore, adults learn slowly. Children do wonders in picking up languages and everything when they were growing up. Just like a sponge. Metaphors are therefore used for changing minds and making positive transformation. The understanding and application come about when the need by the individual arises. Metaphors are subtle and yet they are fantastic teaching and therapy tools. Metaphors, yes, they speak volume.

Now…what exactly is hypnosis?

 

When someone is under hypnosis, one is really in a heightened state of relaxation. Yes, the person is awake-totally!! The person is absolutely and fully aware of everything that is going on around him or her. While he or she is in an extremely relaxed state, each single sound and word is extraordinary clear and bright. The person, being able to enter into such a relaxed condition, is very calm and acceptable to positive and beneficial suggestions that he or she are willing to receive. He or she can reject any suggestion that will do harm without hesitation.

Using metaphors under hypnosis can be very therapeutic for the person. Hypnotherapists, psychologists, NLP practitioners, therapists use storying telling in their work. Metaphors are able to bypass the critical faculty and work on the unconscious mind to rid of limiting beliefs, pain, negative emotions, anger, sadness and guilt, just to mention a few. A person is not restrained from limitations and thus, is able to do the things that he or she is not normally uncapable.

Pain control and body catalepsy are just two fine examples that anyone can enter into and either feel no pain or stiffening of the entire body to enable the body to be placed between two chairs with the eyes open respectively. A person suffering from Parkinson’s disease can walk straight under hypnosis while maintaining full consciousness of what is going on around he or her.

The moral of the message is that while we are in a complete relaxed state, we can so internalized that we can achieve feats that are normally impossible. To achieve body, mind and spirit balancing, it is undoubtedly imperative that we must constantly be relaxed and not get out of control. When we react, we are externalizing our feelings and that could cause harm onto ourselves, not to mention hurting others.

Yoga in the form of pranayama (breathing) calms the mind. Self-hypnosis can do wonders. Meditation is a form of self-hypnosis. Meditation is a heightened conscious state; and in going into a state “BEING” (internalization) one begins to realize the unmanifest sphere around us.

Next post will be “Metaphors” and more posts on NLP and Hypnosis in days ahead.

Hypnosis

It is now just half an hour to midnight. I thought it would be good to just take a few minutes to write this down before the end of today. And I will carry on with the second chapter tomorrow or the day after.

This must be very easily the most misunderstood word in the English Speaking World. Wait a minute. That might not be true. It could be 99% of the world population who have heard about the word “Hypnosis”. And they have all got it so wrong.

Why is it such a misconstrued word? No thanks to the movies and Hollywood, we get our current perception of what Hypnosis is. In reality it is just not what the movies made it out to be.

That’s all for now folks … more to come on the subject.

Goodnite.

Mind, Self And Spirit

It was this recent Sunday. I read an interesting article written by Dr. Amir Farid Isahak. I would like to share that with you.

source –

www.thestar.com.my/health

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“The one who cheats and hurts others for his or her own gain or boasts to boost his ego or does things to satisfy his or her desires regardless of consequences has his or her Self being in charge.

Often he or she fluctuates between the pros and cons of proceeding with the decision or deed, but in the end his or her desires prevail. The Mind (conscious mind) is in control when correct decisions based on knowledge, understanding and logical thinking are made to give beneficial outcomes. But this is often limited by ignorance and low intelligence (low IQ), even though the intentions are good.

The Spirit is in charge when decisions and actions are marked by wisdom, which is a result of knowledge, understanding, and most importantly, Divine guidance. Some spiritual decisions and actions may seem incongruous at first, but the wisdom of such decisions and actions will become evident later.

Often, spiritual actions do not require any logical thinking. When someone needs help, the Spirit person helps unconditionally; the Mind person considers whether he or she should or shouldn’t help, especially if there are possible legal implications; and the Self person will think of ways to take advantage of the situation for his or her own benefit only, even if it means hurting that person more.”

Just thought some of you might find this inspiring.

Neuro-linguistic Programing

Neuro-linguistic Programing. NLP in short. This is a very powerful personal transformation technology. There are many tools that can be applied in various areas to make changes to behaviour(s) for personal transformation. We are hugely unconscious operated beings. Most of what we do at all times are carried out without us knowing those actions. For example – our heart beating laboriously away without us knowing it until we are bought to realize it. Now you can feel the temperature of your body and the difference of that temperature and that of the space around you. Perhaps, as you read this blog, you are becoming conscious of the weight of your feet. Even just before now, you were unconscious of your breathe and the air that was passing in and out of your nostrils.

NLP deals largely with the unconscious mind. When we are conscious, we are not at our best learning state. Babies and infants learn best at their age and the reason is purely because they have no resistance and filters to learning. Their mind is like a sponge!! Absorbing everything that comes along, right or wrong contents.

Having understood the last 2 paragraphs, as parents to young ones, as teachers to pupils, it makes a huge difference for either the parents or the teachers to use the right language. “Communication is the response we get”. If we use the proper language, babies, infants and children will be brought up with the right attitude and behaviours. When a child grows up in a family contained with problems, nothing but just problems, the chance of this child becoming an adult with an appropriate outlook in life is slim. He or she is unsble to integrate into society. A tall order indeed and how true most of the time. As parents and teachers, we hold heavy responsibilities in the things we say and do. We are role models to the young ones. Young ones going through their imprinting years taking in what we say and do literally without filters. Therefore, when they grow up and they do behave different than how we wish them to be, let’s ponder who is at fault that might be. Be careful what how we carry ourselves in front of these kids!!

There is an enormous resource on NLP and its practical application in every aspect of life-issues, business, politics, sports, therapies, coaching, negotiations, etc. As I progress with this blog, I will certainly look forward to sharing many aspects of NLP and its applications.

That’s all for now.

A Good Sense Of Personal Accomplishment

Thanks for visiting my Blog. You must have guessed. My name is Franco Yong.

I have meant to publish a blog for about 2 years and now I have done it. Not need to regret as what is important is what I do for the time ahead. That was in January 16, 2007. Now I have created 5 blog-sites with Blogger. I am so happy. Indeed, what a beginning for 2007!!

Today I have started with WordPress. I am going to have this blog and another one that I will begin with soon.

That’s not all. On January 20, 2007, I launched my website for teddy bears. I have dedicated that site to all the children of the world.

From that moment on January 16 onwards, I am going to launch myself right into the space of blogging and e-business. And I am serious and being me, I don’t ever give up. I am going to stay in cybersphere for a long long time. And make a wave or two during the journey. I am going to enjoy the adventures.

I hope you will come by regularly to visit my blogs and share with me, like I do, about Mind, Body, Spirit And Fluttering Thoughts and eBizUniversity – the world of eBusiness and Bloggings. Till the my next publication …

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We Are Made Of Dreams

The cyberspace journey might not be going as planned for many of us embarking on it. Who says it is going to without challenges and hiccups? As long as we keep that dream alive, we will reach the end of that rainbow. The trip is going to be rough, cold and lonely time and time again. Achieving dreams are always that way. We have to be tough when the going gets tough. We must persevere to enjoy the fruit of our dream. We must toil. We must resist the easy temptations to give up on our dreams. We must be strong and learn every bit we can. We are the power of our own dreams. Live those dreams and keep the courage to leap, spread our wings and fly!!

I wish to share that and the following inspirational story before before I progress further into my cyberblog roller-coaster with myself and everyone I have the fortune to be connected with.

DREAMS

A wonderful story for any age…..

The first day of school our professor introduced himself and
challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know. I stood
up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder.
I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me
with a smile that that lit up her entire being.

She said, “Hi, handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old.
Can I give you a hug?” I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “Of
course you may!” and she gave me a giant squeeze.

“Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?” I asked.
She jokingly replied, “I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married,
have a couple of children, and then retire and travel.”

“No seriously,” I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to
be taking on this challenge at her age.

“I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting
one!” she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and share a
chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next
three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was
always mesmerized listening to this “time machine” as she shared her
wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily
made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled
in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was
living it up.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football
banquet. I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and
stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech,
she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a
little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said,
“I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is
killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell
you what I know.”

As we laughed she cleared her throat and began: “We do not stop
playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There
are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving
success. “You have to laugh and find humor every day. You’ve got to
have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many
people walking around who are dead and don’t even know it!”

“There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If
you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t
do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am
eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do
anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That
doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always
finding the opportunity in change.”

“Have no regrets. The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we
did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear
death are those with regrets.”

She concluded her speech by courageously singing The Rose. She
challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our
daily lives. At the years end Rose finished the college degree she had
begun all those years ago.

One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.

Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to
the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s never too late to
be all you can possibly be.
Lessons:

1. You are never too old to learn.
2. Laugh and find humor everyday .
3. Don’t let change overwhelm you, let change help you find
opportunities you may have never seen!

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams
— Eleanor Roosevelt

Dream as if you’ll live forever. Live as if you’ll die today.
— James Dean

Advice

Do you have a dream, a wish, then turn it into a goal today – break it
down, take one step, then another and accomplish your dream.
— Catherine Pulsifer

The start of my journey into cyberspace.

My name is Franco Yong. I hail from Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.

This journal will be my journey, adventure, experience and challenges into the realm of cyberspace of eBuiness or eCommerce, internet marketing, online shopping and blogging. I will also provide tips and links for doing business online as well as blogging. I will also hope to share with those just starting up a blog or thinking of starting up a blog what to do in their proceeding days ahead. This will be a day-by-day guide to them to set up a blog as I had experienced it before.

Now my thoughts about the rest of my cyberspace journey for since November, 2007.

Many years I have been buying products of different sorts online. “What a great business to be into”, I told myself. For years I had the urge to get my hands into the field of eBusiness. I never really got to do it until November 2006. I guessed just like anyone else, I was putting it off as long as I can. I simply convinced myself that the realm of the unknown can be put-off till another day and then another day.

One destined day in November last year, I decided to learn more about the unfamiliar and taking up the challenge. Next day, I paid a hefty sum of money and got myself enrolled into an internet marketing workshop. For the next 2 1/2 days, I told myself that I should have started the journey the moment I had that fire to do so. Well, how true the saying goes – “Better late than never”. And at the age of 52!!

Today it is exactly 13 weeks ago since I launched my teddy bear website. The journey might seem brief considering that I attended the workshop in mid November 2006. It had been a challenging 8 weeks prior to the website launch. The workshop had provided me with an understanding of some of the areas that I could consider.

Options were available to me for to look at which business model would be appropriate for me. I would have taken the easy route and either launched the platform based on affiliate programs or drop-shippers. Another choice was e-books.

I chose to source a product, promote and market it. It has to be something that is well-liked, suitable for all occasions, simple and light to deliver to customers. Of course, the profit margins have to be uncompromisingly attractive!! I decided to sell teddy bears. These teddy bears that are unlike those generally available in the marketplace. I headed to the bookstores. I bought books and even more books. Books included topics covering Internet marketing, SEO, Blogging, Video-blogging, eBay, Dreamweaver 8. I read and read…trying to gain a more in-depth understanding of the sorts of application of the knowledge gained from the workshop on a subject I have not idea of at the beginning and yet so complex.

Sourcing for the right teddy bear product has taken a month. I began designing the teddy bear website. However, with the tight time line that I had imposed on myself to launch my website, I finally passed that task to a webmaster. Armed with the knowledge I have equipped myself from workshop and the books, I worked with the webmaster to structure the website that way it should be as per recommendations I sourced from books. Just a piece of advice here. Never leave it to your webmaster entirely to create and design the website. There are just too many other considerations besides the look and feel of the website. For a website to be able to attract traffic, it is critically important that keywords, meta-tags, site optimization, ranking,Google AdWords , blog are considered. All these I had to work with the webmaster in addition to the shopping cart and adding a blog to the website.

Finally on January 20, 2007 I was ready to uploaded my website and it was done.

For the first 2 weeks, nothing happened as far as money making was concerned. I was tweaking areas such as my keywords, landing pages, page titles, blog, , robots, Google Analytics. I was also working on my blog, http://my1teddybear.blogspot.com, with the hope to promote and drive certain amount interests to the website. I simultaneously initiated another blog, http://francoyong.blogspot.com. This blog is about Mind, Body And Spirit including numerous other thoughts that might come along the way.

Further area I worked on was Google AdWords – activated sponsored links. That effort, immediately within the same hour, drove my unexpected traffic (being a novice) to the website from all over the world। I had 85 visitors within the first 5 hours of the Google AdWords being activated. Believe me now!! Indeed Google Adwords does work. I generated about 3.5% conversion on average. Over a 5-week duration, I received orders amounting to just over USD 4,000 from the world at large. I must say that is pretty impressive for a start-up for my teddy bear website.

Oh…another thing. I also extend my support for now, to two international orphanage homes as well as one in Malaysia. In total there are 150 international orphans and more children will be added as I go along. Furthermore, with the money earned from the teddy bear website, I will set aside 20% for hungry children in extreme poverty. 1 child in the world dies of hunger every 3 seconds. That’s the least reason these children should die this way.

I am happy for the path and the milestones I have covered so far.

Heap Heap Hooray!!

Our Brain

Brain 101: How to Play the Brain Game for Fun and Profit

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

The Brain Game
How Do We Run Our Own Brain?

So you want to run your own brain? Good for you. What a wonderful objective! And so rare. Many people talk about running their own brain and taking charge of their own mind, but just watch them when criticized or insulted. They go to pieces. Let one of their closely held beliefs be questioned, and watch out. Sudden it becomes semantic reaction time. They explode with rage, anger, stress, fear, shock, etc. If they truly “run their own brains,” how is it that they lack state management skills in the moments when managing one’s reactions really counts?

Running our own brain, and thinking freely in independent ways apart from rehashing worn-out or spoon fed thoughts necessitates several things. It necessitates that we develop mindfulness about our brains (or more accurately, our minds) so that we actually develop state management skills. It means we learn to play a new Game, The “Running My Own Brain” Game. So, with that in mind:

* What do you need to understand about brains to be able to run yours?
* Would you like to play the Brain Game?

SEVEN BRAIN FACTS

Here are seven things about your brain. They provide a description about how brains work. They also establish an understanding of the Game of Running Your Own Brain and so lead to the Rules of the Game.

#1: Brains Follow Directions

Brains follow directions. They take the directions that you give them and they follow them.

“John, did you see that red, white and blue cat yesterday? Yes, red, white and blue― in fact, the American Flag colors were bright red, white, and blue. Someone in the neighborhood must have thought it would be a patriotic thing to do. Where did I see it? On Linda’s yellow car. It was being chased by a pair of French Poodles across the greenbelt by the swimming pool. That was just before King Kong climbed to the top of the school and beat his chest at the circling plane.”

Provide a little description and the brain goes to work representing the information on our internal mental screen. Like a movie director, brains use the information as instructions for our mental Cinema. This explains why the following are very important questions for our states:

What directions are you giving your brain?
What are the default instructions that you’ve learned to give your brain?
What instructions did your parents or teachers provide you about yourself, life, others, etc.?
How useful, ecological, healthy, balanced, valuable, true, etc. are those instructions?
Do those instructions create empowering states for you?
Would you want to give those instructions to your children?
Do they map out an exciting and loving life?

Why are these questions so important? Because the quality of our lives is a function of the quality of the information processed by our brain. The quality of that information flows from the quality of its instructions. The most important thing you do in life then are the instructions that you give your brain. Are the instructions those that you would use to create a world-class movie?

Recently a young man wrote to me.

“I’m an extremely shy person. When I see a social situation, I avoid it because I say to myself that I’ll have nothing to say and that I’ll be a complete idiot because they will find me boring, then I’ll feel depressed. So I just don’t go. Every time I make a mistake, I feel stupid, then depressed. And that’s what causes me to procrastinate. It’s really stupid, and I know better, and I see it causing me to produce sub-optimally. I feel like these are insurmountable problems….”

I copied the words from the email, cut and pasted them back into my reply. I then asked him to step back from the words and view them as brain instructions.

“Just pretend for a moment that these are instructions for your brain. Are these ideas healthy or sick ones? Would you recommend this way of thinking? Suppose the most popular kid at the university thought this way. How much of a party would these instructions make his or her life?”

There’s a principle in this. Namely, feed your brain toxic ideas and you enter into a toxic world. Your brain will go there because that’s what brains do. Brains go places. Just this week I caught a Brain (thank God it wasn’t mine) going to “Worst Case Scenario!” The person was talking about terrorism in the world. He then entertained unimaginable scenarios. Then he freaked out. Then he said, “This shouldn’t happen!”

And I can tell you, these instructions did not put him in a very resourceful state.

Brains use words, pictures, sounds, tones, volumes, smells, tastes, all kinds of things as the basis for swishing us places. Mention a word and off your brain goes. But where? It depends on your learning history, experiences, memories, imaginations, hopes, etc. Brains are phenomenal at linking things. They do so very, very quickly. Actually, this is one of the chief problems we have with our brains. The problem is not that they don’t learn, but that they learn too quickly. It’s just what they learn that often times is just not true or useful.

Brains are also incredible instruments that never shut down. Even in sleep, we dream as brain wave activity continues. This becomes a problem if we don’t give the brain lots of interesting things to process. The stimulus hunger of brains will trigger them to play the old B-rated movies or hallucinate freely.

#2: Brains Externalize Instructions

We can see a person’s internal world of ideas and frames by noticing the person’s external Games. External life reflects internal frames. The behavioral, speech, and action Games that we play on the outside are expressions of our internal frames of mind. They go together. Games and Rules of the Games.

The old proverb put it this way: “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” The Roman philosopher Marcus Aurelius put this yet another way:

“As thy thoughts are so will thy mind be also; for the soul takes its coloring from thought.”
“If you are pained by an external thing, it is not this thing that disturbs you―but your judgment about it.” (The Meditations, 160 AD).

Brains manifest internal representation into the external world so that we externalize our internal frames and representations. What does this mean? Namely, that our external world will only be as exciting, vibrant, dramatic, and powerful as our internal frames of mind. So, as you decorate your internal world of mind, imagination, and memory with hopes, desires, wonders, delights, etc., you alter the quality and content of the instructions that you give to your brain.

This brings up several excellent questions for those of us who want to run our own brain to create a quality life:

What kind of images, sounds, words, sensations, etc. do you have running on the inside of your brain?
What kind of internal movies are you showing in the Cinema of your Mind?
Who does your interior decorating?
Does your internal world of frames need some better interior decorating?

#3: Brains Run on Representations

The cognitive and neuro-sciences have discovered that brains represent our external sensed experiences. It is not that we literally have an internal movie screen in our mind, yet it seems that we do. This phenomena of consciousness is how we experience thoughts and awareness’s. It seems that we internally recall what our home, car, work, friends, parents, dogs, etc. look like, sound like, smell like, feel like, taste like. This sensory awareness on the inside of our brain has led neuro-scientists to designate parts of the brain the visual cortex, auditory cortex, the cortex where we process smells, tastes, sensations, balance, etc.

Korzybski and others noted that we operate upon the world, not directly, but via a map of the world. In NLP, Bandler and Grinder revolutionized psychology by putting the foundation of thought in terms of the sensory representations systems and using these modalities of awareness as the first “languages” of the mind. This facet of running our own brain seems so simple, yet it is so profound.

If we picture a beautiful day with blue sky and billowy white clouds and a green grass lawn facing the white sands of a gorgeous ocean view and imagine feeling the warm ocean breeze blowing through our hair and the smell of the salt water and the sounds of children playing and enjoy our favorite drink while getting a neck and back massage from our special loved one …

Well, it doesn’t take long before our body and neurology responds to those representations as if they were instructions about how to feel. Because brains run on representations, the more expressive, vivid, dramatic, and sensory-specific, the easier it is for us to tell our brains where to go and what to feel. Then the screen play is clearer and easier to follow.

Our brains represent things as it were on a mental screen of the mind. It’s like there’s an internal movie playing and we fill in the sensory details of that movie. Of course, we do not play out everything in that Cinema. We can’t. We can’t even input all that comes in. Our eyes only scan a very narrow part of the electromagnetic spectrum. Our ears only receive a very narrow band of sound wave frequencies. So we have to be pretty selective, as a movie director, about what we play on our internal Cinema. Choose well. It’s your brain.

#4: Brains Transition In and Out of the Present Moment

With that last induction (three paragraphs above), did you leave where you are now and go somewhere else? If you didn’t, perhaps you could use the words to do that. Try it out. Because we represent things, we can represent realities that are not immediately present and go there. This is the foundation of all day-dreaming, night-dreaming, fantasizing, learning, creativity, invention, thinking, conceptualizing, mathematizing, theorizing, etc. This is what we humans do best. We can leave our current situation and travel to distance places, times, and worlds.

We call this thinking. It’s also hypnosis. It’s also trance. It’s many things: imagination, fantasy, creativity, and hallucination. This means that we are not stuck or limited to his present moment. We can represent things not present, never present, and even impossible things. What freedom of mind we have! It’s a freedom of consciousness that’s unique to our species. We have a consciousness that can transition from our current state to other states, hence the word “trance.” Anytime we shift our awareness to something that is not part of our current awareness, we enter a trance state.

This means that most of our states of mind are trances. We mostly live in hypnotic states not sensory aware states in this present moment. Hypnosis is the norm, our default situation, not present time sensory acuity. We call hypnosis or trance “downtime” in NLP because we are down inside ourselves thinking, feeling, and experiencing other times, places, people, and ideas. We call present time sensory acuity “uptime” because we are “up” and noticing what our eyes see, ears hear, skin feels, etc.

“Hey, Tom! Tom, Earth to Tom!”

“What?”

Our brains love to zone out. Doesn’t yours? It happens when you drive on long trips, it happens even when you drive to the grocery store. It happens when you wait in line, in an elevator, and when you’re listening to a speech. Brains do that. It’s no big deal. Well, it’s not unless you have no guidance or control over it. Then it is a big deal. If you lack awareness of when you are present and when you’re off on some mind-trip, then you are doing out-of-control hallucinating.

We all hallucinate. Those who do so mindfully and by choice are our greatest scholars, inventors, creators, designers, teachers, CEOs, etc. Those who don’t do it by choice suffer from under-achieving and the ineffectiveness of not being able to manage their own mind. They don’t run their own brains.

#5: Brains Induce States

Brains put us into neurological states. They affect our physiology, breathing, movement, and internal chemistry. To work up a good mad, we only have to think angry thoughts of injustice and violation. We only have to think about a dangerous threat and off we go into a fear state. And some representations of sexuality can induce our body to experience desire and lust.

Brains do this because they are part of the body. They sit at the top of the spinal cord and nervous system and bring in all of the nervous impulses processed by the end receptors. Out of the structure of our multi-layered brains emerge our sense of awareness we call “mind.” Mind is an emergent property in the neurology of our brain. So it is always mind-body or body-mind, and never one without the other.

This explains why we mostly think or represent ourselves into our states but why we also can act our way into states. This gives us two royal roads into a mind-body state of consciousness whether it is confidence and joy and love or fear, anger, and sadness. We can use mind and all of our internal representations and we can use body (breathing, posture, movement, activity, etc.).

What state are you in? What state do you go into when any given stimulus or trigger occurs? You need look no further than the instructions you give yourself at the mental dimension or what you do in terms of your posture, muscle tension, breathing, etc. at the physiological dimension.

#6: Brains Go in Circles

Not only do our brains represent the world, go places, and put us into states, but brains also do flips, they roll over, they flip back on themselves, they go in circles. As there are feed forward and feedback loops in the physical structure of the brain so that nervous impulses are sent to the thalamus and the amygdala they are simultaneously passed on to the escorted and after processing there back to the lower brain structures. It’s all inter-connected. We even have an associative cortex that keeps everything connected with everything else so that we have more cortical connections in the three trillion brain cells than atoms in the universe.

No wonder we loop around. No wonder we can worry about our humor and wonder if we are caring too much and then become afraid of our worry and then think something must be wrong with us that we are worry about something so silly as that. We get caught up in down spirals of negative thoughts and can become obsessive compulsive. We can get caught up in positive spiral of thoughts and suffer from insomnia due to our excitement.

Our brains are not strictly logical. To think in a straightforward way and to stay on that path for more than a few seconds is very difficult for our brains. That’s why mathematics and formal logic seem so foreign to us. It’s not the natural habit of our mind. We think in circles. Our brains go around in loops and spirals. We keep reprocessing the same tired old thoughts.

This reflexivity is what allows us to layer thought upon thought, feeling upon feeling, thought upon feeling, memory upon imagination, fear upon anger, dread upon worry, joy upon learning, etc. This creates the whole domain of our meta-states―our states of thoughts and feelings about other thoughts and feelings. And that’s what creates the layering effect of our awareness so that we can create great complexity in our experiences.

We begin with a reference experience, bring it in and represent it, then develop thoughts and feelings about that, and so on until what was “out there” becomes a frame of reference, a frame of mind and then the very frameworks of four personality and orientation. This creates the Rules of the Game, or our highest frames of mind.

#7: Brains Frame Things

This is one of the greatest powers of our brain for health and sanity and for insanity and destructiveness. Our brains frame. They do so to create contextual meaning. Things, events, people, even words do not mean anything in and of themselves. It takes a brain to create meaning, a “thing” that does not exist out there but is a production of the brain.

Actually, the brain creates two levels of meaning. Associative meaning arises when we link up one thing with another thing. What does a cookie mean? It depends on what you have associated with a cookie. It could mean a sweet or junk food. It could mean reward or lack of nutrition. It could mean delight and fun, it could mean threat to my diet. It could mean survival, it could mean fat.

Because brains link ideas, images, feelings, etc., things easily become associated. This creates triggers or anchors. One thing (a sight, sound, sensation, word, etc.) triggers another thing. Stimulus― Response. In this way we create structures of the mind that we call understandings or knowledge. These are not “things,” but organizations of associations―how we have sequenced or ordered the frames in our movies.

What does an “authority figure” mean? Where does your brain go when you think about an “authority figure?” What state does it evoke? Pleasant or unpleasant? Resourceful or unresourceful? Just thoughts … connected in your brain to memories, awareness’s, meanings.

Then there is contextual or frame meaning. Once we have linked up and associated things and bring that association into our mind as our frame of reference, we develop higher level thoughts about it. We call these ideas “concepts.” In this way we now look at things through a conceptual frame of mind. It becomes a filter. We call them meta-states and meta-programs. This establishes a mental context for thinking and feeling. This is how we turn associations into higher level maps. Doing so establishes the mental Rules of the Games that we then play.

We first associate a harsh tone of voice with being spanked. Later we develop ideas and concepts that people who strain their vocal chords are mean, hurtful, and nasty. Then we develop higher frames that “criticism is bad,” “confrontation always ruins things,” “I’m sensitive to criticism,” “I cannot handle that tone of voice,” etc. These thoughts create the higher frames of mind about an event and semantically load that event. So when someone strains the vocal chords, the meanings I experience in relation to that event puts me into very unresourceful states. All of this happens so quickly that on the inside it seems like and feels like “the criticism” (or harsh tonality) makes me upset, angry, or frustrated. This is how we set up and play the Games that we do.

Brains deal with data overload by making generalizations. They create categories for items; they organize things into groups. This allows us to develop contextual meanings from our frames, giving us an even higher way to interpret things.

“Oh, that’s just information. Good. For a minute I thought that was criticism.”

How we categorize a thing determines what it “is” to us― in our neurology. Yet as we frame, so we become. What we organize on the inside, in-forms us. We are all psychologically organized by our belief frame, value frames, identity frames, decision frames, etc. And the thing about the brain framing is that as we frame, so we play the frame games that we do.

HOW TO PLAY THE BRAIN GAME

Now that you know about brains (minds), what they do and how they work, you’re ready to play the Brain Game. This is the Running Your Own Brain Game, one of the original visions of NLP. With Neuro-Semantics we take this even further to run our own brain at the highest levels of the mind (The Secrets of Personal Mastery, 2000).

Rule #1: Quality Control Your Brain’s Instructions.

Consider anything that isn’t Top-Notch Quality for your Brain as Absurd.

Did I mention that brains are stupid? At least in one sense they are very stupid, in the aspect of quality. In that area, they are less intelligent than stomachs. Really. After all, if we feed our stomach garbage, it at least knows how to vomit. Not so the brain. Feed it garbage and it doesn’t think twice, it just processes the garbage. Feed it toxic ideas, poisonous thoughts, limiting beliefs, irrational conclusions, and inaccurate mapping and it doesn’t know any better than to represent it, assume it is real, and then believe it. Brains themselves are not discriminating about quality, at least not near as much as the stomach. Whether the information is accurate, useful, true, productive, hurtful, stupid, etc., it doesn’t seem to matter.

So, given this stupidity of brains, we have to take charge of the Quality Control of the information we feed it. We call this “running an ecology check.” Reality test the value, health, and balance of an idea in the whole system of your body, relationships, energy, etc. This is the first Rule of the Game.

If you don’t do this, prepare yourself for trouble because trouble, problems, ill-health, incongruent, sabotage, conflict, etc. you will get. This Brain Game Rule says,

“Anything that does not create personal power, health, balance, joy, compassion, wealth, love, etc. is absurd.”

Do you play the Game of Life by that rule?

I highly recommend it.

Consider anything that your brain produces in your body, emotions, speech, behavior, relationships that puts you in constant conflict, that keeps repeating patterns that don’t work, that creates incongruity, ineffectiveness, unresourcefulness, etc. as absurd. Then stop it! If you follow this first rule, your life will probably radically change and transform in a matter of weeks. This is an extremely powerful and pervasive Rule.

If what you are doing, whether in communication to yourself or others, whether in relationship to your work, career, relationships, health, etc. is not working as an ongoing pattern, STOP. To keep repeating long term patterns that don’t work while hoping for different results is a practical definition of “insanity.” It is absolutely ludicrous to keep replaying the old movies of hurt and pain in the theater of your mind. Wasn’t once enough? It’s ludicrous because while the first time it happen to you, after that first time you have been doing it to yourself! It’s your brain doing it. It’s not happening “out there” anymore. If you’re still watching that B-rated movie, and you are the director of the movie.

Quality control your thinking, higher frames of mind, beliefs, states, etc.

Does this enhance my life over the long-run?
Does this empower me as a person?
Does this make life a party?

This Rule will radically challenge everybody still whining over childhood aches and pains, feeling like a victim to a failed marriage or business, or blaming others for their lack of success. This Rule enables you to live in a different way and to play a different Game― a more passionate and ferocious Game, one where you move out into life looking for opportunities and taking risks and playing to your strengths.

Rule #2: Rise Up in your Mind to Become Aware of the Games

You Only Get to Run Your Own Brain if You have Meta-Awareness

Everybody does not get to run his or her own brain. There is one primary condition for getting to run your own brain, you have to know that you have a brain to run and awareness of how you are currently running it. The brain creates first level “awareness,” awareness of the world. This is the consciousness of animals and small children. Awareness of that awareness, meta-awareness, moves us to a higher level of mind. If you don’t know that you are running your own brain or how you are running it, then your unawareness will be unconscious. Then you won’t get to run your own brain. Your Brain will run you!

This Rule ought to scare the hell out of out you! Does it? Unconsciousness means that you are not mindful of what’s going on. Use that as a cue. Do you ever scratch your head wondering that? Do you have ask:

Hey, what’s going on here? Why do I feel this way?
Why can’t I seem to get ahead?
Why am I always running around in circles and never getting on with things?
I don’t know what came over me; I just flipped out?
I don’t seem to have control of my emotions.

When Rule #2 says that you only get to run your own brain when you develop meta-awareness of what you’re doing, it posits awareness as the key condition. This is a big challenge for many. Over the years many have asked, “Would you just hypnotize me and make this problem go away?” I played that Game for awhile. Then I realized the toxicity in that attitude. It’s the wrong attitude if you really want to have control over your own life. That attitude will not lead you on to personal mastery. That attitude indicates the failure to actively participate in your own life. And that’s why it has to be refused.

In NLP and NS we know that the magic is in the structure. The structure of an experience itself is the magic. That’s why we model. We model experts to learn how they do it. Do what? Run their own brain with regard to a specific area (selling, parenting, relating, communicating, wealth building, health and fitness, leadership, etc.). Once we know that, we know how to find the magic in any field or expertise.

This explains why we do the kind of trainings that we do. We seek to teach to the conscious mind. We want consciousness involved. So while we utilize processes for working with facets of mind outside of conscious awareness, we focus on empowering people to run their own brains without becoming dependent upon us. So we facilitate their self-awareness and ego-strength to look reality in the face, and laugh, and feel ferocious.

This rule leads to various questions and orientations.

What is the basic attitude that drives this experience?
What frame of mind do I need in order to experience this orientation?
How does he do that?
How can I adopt her frame of mind about that?

Rule #3: Beware of Your Frame Referencing

Just Because Your Brain Framed it Does Not Make it Useful

If your brain frames, and if the frames that you set create the Games that you play, take care what you reference and how. We all know people (perhaps we have been such) who experience one or more negative events in life and then (to make things worse), build their lives around that event. Talk about a program that sucks. This is the structure of sick magic: Center your life around a Tragedy, Misfortune, or Injustice! This violates Rule #1 for the Brain Game. It is failing to consider this way of representing and framing things as totally absurd.

Decided to build your life around great events. Find (or invent) wonderful references that you can center you life around.

What wonderful event could I build my life around?
What inspiring referent experience (real or imagined) would I like to commission at the center of my attention
and focus?
If I did, what else would have to change?
And what other supporting ideas or beliefs would enable me to frame things this way?

What you reference, how you reference in terms of the representation richness you encode it in and what you set as your governing frames makes all the difference in the world. It controls and governs the Games that you play. Are you playing the Games that you want to play? If not, then take a look at the entire referencing and framing sequence and design a more empowering one.

As everything habituates so do the neuro-pathways and the internal processing of the brain. When we habituate a way of thinking, an information processing style, or a direction for sending our brain, it eventually becomes our meta-programs or sorting styles. This defines our current trance that organizes our mind-body states. Frames become our software programs or default maps for how to operate in any given arena of life.

Rule #4: Lighten Up and Have Lots of Fun with your Brain

If you don’t enjoy the process, you will get stupid.

Here’s another rule in the Brain Frame Game. If you get serious about things, you will get stupid. Stupidity is the occupational hazard of getting serious about things. Getting serious typically undermines such graces as humor, laughter, enjoyment, playfulness, silliness, and ludicrousness. And yet these are the saving graces that keep us human. These are the saving graces for being real, being spiritual, and being authentic. Lose these and you will not be able to run your own brain with any dignity or grace.

Lose humor and laughter and you loose perspective. You’ll even begin to be seduced into playing the God Game, thinking you are perfect (or should be), know it all (or should), and be everywhere and do everything (hence, indispensable). If any of that seems legitimate, you are in danger of getting stupid very rapidly.

Now the stupidity of seriousness causes people to become stiff and rigid. They get “right” (or so they think), then proud of being right. That leads to stuffiness, arrogance, and the closing of the mind. It’s a pitiful thing to see. Yet it happens all too often. Many people pursue an advanced degree and then think the degree bestows upon them an All-Knowingness. They actually think that their every opinion is somehow sacred and should never be question. Doctors, educators, and bureaucrats often fall into this fallacy. All of this increases their stupidity because not only do they not know it all, but they cannot know it all, no one can, and if they did, it would make life less worth living. The fun is in the pursuit.

Rigid serious arrogance makes these people clowns when it comes to making a mistake. Talk about watching a fallible human being make an ass of himself. Watch one of these people do something wrong. The problem is that they can’t be wrong. It’s not allowed. Yet their pomposity won’t allow them to simply say, “Oops. Missed that one.”

This Rule in the Game of Running Your Own Brain says you have to enjoy and delight yourself in your complete fallibility. Your brain is fallible and that makes all you think fallible, all of your emotions, speech, behavior, and actions. It is all “liable to error.” Don’t just accept this, enjoy it. How easy is it for you to have fun with it? To poke fun at your own silliness? To be ridiculous, make a fool of yourself, blow it, and still maintain all of your dignity?

Serious people not only believe, they believe in their beliefs. This is what makes them dangerous. That leads them to being fanatical “true believers” who have closed their minds to the possibility of being wrong. Such serious people never see the high comedy of their ridiculous position. It’s their lack of humor that leaves them with no perspective. So it is humor that’s our saving grace, that frees us up, that allows us to lighten up and to know that all of our mental mapping is just that―fallible human mapping, at the best, the highest thinking we can do at the moment.

Lighten up and enjoy the ride especially when you get into a loop. Just flow with it. If you fight it, if you resist it, you add negative energy to the loop. The quickest and easiest way out is paradoxical― welcome it and enjoy the ride. It’s just a loop of the mind. Play with it.

#5: Keep Teaching Your Brain New Tricks

Yes, your brain can (and will) learn new tricks. Count on it. Brains are always learning, that’s the good news. The bad news is that if you don’t take charge of what they are learning, they will learn trash. So in playing the Brain Game, aim to constantly be teaching your brain more productive things. Feed it the best data available: inspiring ideas, awesome thoughts, empowering beliefs, and supporting understandings. Keep coding and recoding the Cinema in your mind so that your internal world is dramatic, exciting, bigger than life, full of grace and love, power and energy, make it alive and vital. Create one new empowering frame of mind every week―in a year’s time you’ll have 52 enhancing frames for the Matrix of your Mind.

Set out on the exciting adventure of discovering, unpacking and replicating the strategies of the experts. Forget “why” things go wrong and people are stupid, focus on those who are producing excellence and search out their strategy. Find out what movies are playing in the Cinema of their Minds. Find out all of the cinematic features that make that movie so entertaining and the states and higher level states it creates. After you do that for a year or two, you’ll have habituated the Movies of the Experts in your mind … and body and emotions and life.

Summary

There’s a new Game in town. It’s the Game of Running Your Own Brain. Nor does it take a rocket scientist to understand the Game. Mostly it takes self-awareness, meta-awareness, and the willingness to have fun exploring how the brain creates the Matrix of Frames that then governs the Games of our lives.

THE BRAIN GAME

BRAIN FACTS

BRAIN GAME RULES
#1: Brains Follow Directions

#2: Brains Externalize their Instructions

#3: Brains run on Representations

#4: Brains Transition in and out of the present moment

#5: Brains Induce States

#6: Brains Go in Circles

#7: Brains Frame Things
#1: Quality Control your Brain Instructions

#2: Rise Up in your Mind to become aware of the Games

#3: Beware of your Frame Referencing

#4: Lighten Up and Have Lots of Fun with Your

#5: Keep Teaching Your Brain New Tricks

References

Bodenhamer, Bob; Hall, L. Michael. (2000). Users manual of the brain. Wales, UK: Crown House Publications.

Hall. L. Michael (2000). Meta-States: Managing the higher levels of your mind. Grand Jct. CO: Neuro-Semantics Publications.

Hall, L. Michael. (2000). Secrets of personal mastery: Advanced techniques for accessing your higher levels of consciousness. Wales, UK: Crown House Publications.

Author:

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D., cognitive psychologist, international NLP trainer, entrepreneur; prolific author and international training; developer of Meta-States and co-developer of Neuro-Semantics. (P.O. Box 8, Clifton CO 81520), (970) 523-7877. http://www.neurosemantics.com.

"I love you so"

Just sitting down and thinking of Valentine’s Day. It’s going to be another year. Yes, another year indeed. What has the past 350 odd days being like? How much have love and romance played a significant part in those days passed? For many, a little portion has meant an appreciate whole lot. To some, they might not have enough of love and romance. Yet to many unfortunate and lonely ones, they have not even received an ounce of love at all.

However, the most important question is not how much love one has received. It’s how much have we given? And without expectation of any love being returned.

Think of our mums and dads. The love they have given can’t be bought and at times with deep sacrifice and selflessly. Their love are absolutely priceless. However, when they gave us their love, they didn’t expect any in return and money in return. Their love are unconditional. We really should reciprocate; return our love with even greater measures, and most of all, with utmost respect and filial piety.

It is unfortunate that there are many peopel who differ in their actions. Valentine’s Day is a time of the year to ponder and act. A good time to be reminded and to remember that one’s existence is owed to one’s parents. No matter at which or what position one’s life is currently at, this is always the time to reflect and show gratitude and ask forgiveness.

Valentine’s Day is the time to say “I love you so” and “I am so sorry, forgive me”.

2007 is another beginning. Tomorrow; going right into the 11th. day of the new year, there is a sense of a few substantial projects that I have neither done nor achieved. One of the best decisions in 2006 that I made was to get myself started on the path to understand the world of internet. I had that desire for several years but did not start on any action plan. In November last year, I decided to embark towards that goal of acquiring more knowledge towards that field. I attended a workshop and the rest is history.

Since then, I have by each passing day, learned and understand the world of internet marketing, blogs, SEO, keywords and so many new terms and jargons. I even invested in a new Mac to prepare myself for all the memorable and exciting moments to come. I must say that the journey since November has been a wonderful ride and experience. Most important of all, I have 2 positive outcomes.

I met some new friends.

Secondly, I have certainly drove myself down the path of setting up a website that I am going launch in a few more days. And I wish the world at large would participate with me as well.

www.100teddybear.com

Yes!! Indeed this is literally a website for teddy bears. Hand-made, no two exactly alike, teddy bears. This is going to be a website with a mission. Teddy bears are going to be mascots for the website. They are going to stand for creating moments and magic for children. Those children needing care, attention, love, food and most of all, to be given a simple chance to survive. As a start, 100teddybear.com is dedicated to granting wishes of web page-listed orphaned children without the grace and fortune of ever receiving the joy of having teddy bears in their lives. 100teddybear.com can make it possible for visitors to the website to provide teddy bears for many of such children. I only wish the website could have made it for last Christmas!! Well, Valentine’s Day is approaching.

There are many children who do not even have much of a chance to survive when they come to this world. 20% of sales revenue from the website will be specially dedicated to provide food and medicines for the cause of such hungry children in parts of the world where this contribution would matter most. One day I am sure the website will be able to give more than this 20%, and play a much large role than it is capable of at this infancy stage.

2007 is the start of Mission : Teddy Bear. It is not going to just end here.

2007 is going to be a fantastic year. A year, and surely many more to come, that I desire to see hopeful beginnings for children needing care. And 100teddybear.com is fortunate to plan to play a capable part in it.